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Notsurewheretogo

Member since
December 2019

89 posts

Posted Thu April 1, 2021 10:40pmReport post

So our case is still with CPS but husband had finally admitted he thinks he will be charged. I have been living in hope that CPS would see it as stupid mistake and with husband saying I don't think it will go any further I have been hoping.

But now I feel totally destroyed I don't understand when this case is one conversation nothing else no other proof even the officer admitted there wasn't.

And now there is no hope left.

I just feel like I have nothing left my life and my children's lives will be ruined by a single action that doesn't actually show anything real about him apart from proving he was cheating on me with other women.

I just don't know how to cope anymore!

Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Thu April 1, 2021 11:06pmReport post

Heartbroken

I have no words of wisdom as I too am heartbroken. I am unable to run as its my son who has done this crime.

If your husband is saying he will be charged he must know something.

I am sorry you find yourself here its a place none of us want to be.

Please call the helpline they can help you.

Keep reaching out .. sending a hug your way x

Notsurewheretogo

Member since
December 2019

89 posts

Posted Fri April 2, 2021 7:29amReport post

Hi,

Thank you for replies. CPS have had file since December.

I spoke to solicitor myself and he told me that no other evidence was found just one convo on KIK no images, no arrange to meet, no Search history. They took 13 devices from a span of 10 years and nothing. No previous record. He said the reason he thinks he will he charged is because I keep telling him about cases on here that have been the same.

Solicitor wrote a written representation saying the case doesn't meet evidential threshold and with his mitigating circumstances the judge would have to allow for this and his previous explemary good behaviour.

I was holding hope CPS would see it as what it is which is stupid behaviour basically he was fulfilling fantasies like nurse/doctor and teacher/schoolgirl.

It was with a police decoy who he has a conversation with on kik the convo then ended and then the police decoy used his number (he used his real number, name and regular email to sign up with) to message him on whats app for which my husband said I don't want to talk on here.

I am just feeling so down right now.

Mabel

Member since
June 2019

208 posts

Posted Fri April 2, 2021 8:52amReport post

Hi

Ahh I'm so sorry, it is so very hard living with the tortuous unknown of what is coming next, I totally understand how you are feeling.

My partner was caught by vigilantes, we are still waiting.



When you have children it makes things so much harder, it breaks my heart to think of the consequences of my partners action and the catastrophic impact it could have on our sons life.

But just take one day at a time, because all we really have is right now.

sending big hugs to you

Mabel xx

Colaroo

Member since
October 2020

64 posts

Posted Fri April 2, 2021 9:09amReport post

My husband had 1 chat lasted no more then 18 words. And we're still waiting for the police to download the phone. I find it so crazy that more people go to prison for Conversations then for looking at photos. In my head I have to keep saying it will be prison as I can't live in hope. We have 2 children that don't no any think and I am dreading telling them that there dad have gone to prison. I wish I could give u hope but iv ran out of hope it's nearly been a year since the knock and they only took his phone from him nothing else and no arrest.

Soconfused

Member since
August 2019

24 posts

Posted Fri April 2, 2021 11:39amReport post

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Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Fri April 2, 2021 9:20pmReport post

Hi Notsurewheretogo,
my husbands solicitor said right from start 'plan for the worst and hope for the best'. Still came as a massive shock. It seems crazy to me. I can make no sense at all of the whole justice system. It does seem to be easy pickings, and whilst the prisons are getting fuller with on-line offenders, people who are committing other crimes are ignored. Our village shop and garage have had lots of break ins. Police not interested!! Not enough evidence!
crazy.

I do hope you get a good outcome. Keep strong.
Xxx

Mabel

Member since
June 2019

208 posts

Posted Fri April 2, 2021 10:01pmReport post

Yes I totally agree with you Tabs, I still find your husbands sentence very shocking.

I just wondered if he can appeal it? He has many mitigating circumstances. It does not make sense, there is absolutely no consistency on these sentences.




Sending best wishes & hugs

Mabel xx

Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Sat April 3, 2021 1:40pmReport post

Hi Mabel, I agree it's really harsh. It's up to him re appeal, I suspect he's going to leave it, as we have to fund it! I have challenged the solicitor as he told me that his barrister appeared by video link but prosecutor was there in person, can't see how that can be fair! He said he could see fro the start that the prosecutor had the judges attention....

I do hope your case comes to nothing, you have been waiting for so long. Even the wait doesn't get taken into account!

The justice system is broken!!

xx

Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Sat April 3, 2021 1:41pmReport post

Oh and re crimes at the local shop, I heard today that the police know who the offenders are!!!!! But still no action...i have lost all respect! X

Mabel

Member since
June 2019

208 posts

Posted Mon April 5, 2021 9:43amReport post

Hi again Tabs

I just wondered how long you waited for your husband's case to get to court?



Yes I was hoping with the time being Rui and all this therapies and courses my partner has done this will go in his favour, but looking at your husbands case now I'm very scared!



Mabel xx

Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Mon April 5, 2021 10:48amReport post

Hi Mabel, plea hearing was 18 months from arrest. He only had the one interview on day of arrest! Everything communicated via the solicitor, the charge came through the post. Not what I imagined would happen. xx

In limbo

Member since
January 2021

55 posts

Posted Mon April 5, 2021 8:21pmReport post

Dont give up hope, notsurewheretogo.

My soon to be ex husband was arrested almost a year ago for downloading IIOC.

However I found out a couple of weeks ago that all charges have been dropped due to lack of evidence. They know what he downloaded and said it was some of the worse stuff. However he is a computer wizzkid and had already striped down his computer and deleted everything. They know there are gapes and things have been wiped, but without the evidence there is no proof, so no case to answer.

Hopefully things will turn out ok for you soon. Stay positive