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The first few weeks are such an anxious time. It ws my husband who was the offender and it was the uncertainty that was the hardest bit. Honestly youll hve lots of up and down days and I found that it was oddest things that could set me off. But you are stronger than you realise. And Ive personally found that as time has gone on theres more good days than bad. I hope you feel better soon

Scrappy your not alone.

first I do want to say your son has been very brave opening up. He made a mistake but as my other posts show not everyone can be as honest.

truly you need to take time for yourself you can’t give anything to anyone else if your running empty. Have you been to the doctors I did and the lady gp I saw was understanding. She gave me Propranolol for my anxiety. I don’t take it all the time but sometimes I have this intense fear run over me it’s like a panic attack and it helps calm me.

i know I post a lot on here but I am so private in my day to day life. Have you someone you can talk to outside the family?

I also want to say you sound so nice supporting your son but you can’t be super woman. Please take some time out just for you.

i also hope your husband comes around to seeing why you want to support your son and they can rebuild a relationship.

your not alone thanks for sharing there is always someone on here with a wise word of encouragement. I am still early days in some days I really struggle and others I am okay xxxx

I also know what you mean about the nights being long. It can be hard to switch off can’t it xxx

Hi Scrappy

This is such a difficult time for you all, it's so alien to us that the shock is more than enough to cope with let alone anything else!

Please do as been said in previous posts, make sure you have something for yourself, you can't support everyone, you also need sorting.

Your son and your husband sound as though they are in this with you which is half the battle.

Your son being gay will have no bearing on anything is just if he has looked or downloaded indecent images but you need to believe him until proven otherwise.

Stay strong xx

Scrappy your right if he pointed out the missing I pad, he is certainly working with the police. They should respect that in their investigation. I agree that in this case it sounds sensible to believe him and hope for the best.

I know it’s incredibly hard and so thinking of you all xxx

The anxiety is hard but honestly believe me it gets a bit less as time goes on. I am still in the waiting mode and have moments of it, but there is literally nothing I can do. What’s on their devices is what is on their devices. Me worrying about it won’t change that. I cannot think myself out of this situation. When I know what’s what then I will worry about that x

Scrappy - I went on sick straight away. Never done that before in my life before. EST thing I did. You will go under if you try and do it all and then you will be no help to your son at all. Have a think about it - it’s not a weakness. It’s a strength to realise you can’t cope and then do something about it x

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