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Hello,
I cannot believe I'm here, I never thought my family would be in this position.
My brother was arrested this morning; all we know is from the warrant which basically talks about images.
I have no idea what to think, we all just seem to be floating through the day crying every so often.
What happens after this? Will he come back to the house? Will they place him somewhere? There is a child in the house.
I just don't know what to think or do or say. How can we trust him after this?
I'm so confused and my heart hurts just thinking of him being interviewed.
I just need some answers basically
I cannot believe I'm here, I never thought my family would be in this position.
My brother was arrested this morning; all we know is from the warrant which basically talks about images.
I have no idea what to think, we all just seem to be floating through the day crying every so often.
What happens after this? Will he come back to the house? Will they place him somewhere? There is a child in the house.
I just don't know what to think or do or say. How can we trust him after this?
I'm so confused and my heart hurts just thinking of him being interviewed.
I just need some answers basically
I am so sorry you find yourself here Solost. You have come to the right place for support. There are other people here with brothers in the same position. All of us have someone close to us that has bought us here. Have you talked to the helpline yet? It is a safe place to talk, or cry, and to get answers to questions. Sadly they have heard it all before as there are so many people in our position. It's quite shocking, and very sad.
Have a look at Rainbows post under 'understanding why', which has some great advice for the early days, keep coming back, and read old threads.
It is really important to look after yourself in this, sadly it is a long journey.
xx
Have a look at Rainbows post under 'understanding why', which has some great advice for the early days, keep coming back, and read old threads.
It is really important to look after yourself in this, sadly it is a long journey.
xx
My son 21 was arrested in 2019, he was released on the same day pending investigation.
Unfortunately you have a long road ahead of you .
I am sorry you find yourself here , none of us want to be here . My son is due at magistrates in July so 18 months in .
I felt exactly the same as you & your family couldn't stop crying, I still do .
Keep reaching out you will need the support . Your brother will be allowed back to the home but social services will be informed I know because I also have a child . Police will hopefully inform you of any details as duty to protect child.
If your family don't want dealings with ss then your brother will need to find somewhere to go . It's a difficult situation to be in and very sad .
Here if you need to talk x
Unfortunately you have a long road ahead of you .
I am sorry you find yourself here , none of us want to be here . My son is due at magistrates in July so 18 months in .
I felt exactly the same as you & your family couldn't stop crying, I still do .
Keep reaching out you will need the support . Your brother will be allowed back to the home but social services will be informed I know because I also have a child . Police will hopefully inform you of any details as duty to protect child.
If your family don't want dealings with ss then your brother will need to find somewhere to go . It's a difficult situation to be in and very sad .
Here if you need to talk x
Thank you so much for replying.
It has been a very long and draining day!
He is home and I think I just wanted to see him, he explained what happened and we all very much believe him, it's just reading other peoples post, makes me feel so conflicted to the point my heart hurts.
He has one bail condition and is otherwise free to live a normal life until investigations are finished and if what he is say is true (which we all hope) then it should be ok after?
just very upsetting for anyone to find themselves forced into a situation like this.
Going to get some sleep and hopefully tomorrow is a somewhat new day.
Thank you so much, reading your words has taken the edge off a bit xx
and I'll have a read of that
It has been a very long and draining day!
He is home and I think I just wanted to see him, he explained what happened and we all very much believe him, it's just reading other peoples post, makes me feel so conflicted to the point my heart hurts.
He has one bail condition and is otherwise free to live a normal life until investigations are finished and if what he is say is true (which we all hope) then it should be ok after?
just very upsetting for anyone to find themselves forced into a situation like this.
Going to get some sleep and hopefully tomorrow is a somewhat new day.
Thank you so much, reading your words has taken the edge off a bit xx
and I'll have a read of that
Hi becky1234,
Thank you also for replying, I feel a lot better now that he is home and I've seen him as I think that was what upset me the most.
He has explained what they told him and why he had been arrested, he isn't the kind of person who would find it easy to lie under that kind of pressure and I said in my reply to tabs that we very much believe what he has said.
yes they explained they would be in touch at some point and his only condition while on bail is that he cannot be left alone with the child which is understandable given the circumstances, he understands why they've put that in place and is also happy with that while it's being investigated.
They've told him that he can live as he normally would and they will be calling tomorrow to make sure he is ok.
He is my younger brother and I just want to protect him.
I just hope and pray it's ok.
My heart is with you for sure xxx
Thank you also for replying, I feel a lot better now that he is home and I've seen him as I think that was what upset me the most.
He has explained what they told him and why he had been arrested, he isn't the kind of person who would find it easy to lie under that kind of pressure and I said in my reply to tabs that we very much believe what he has said.
yes they explained they would be in touch at some point and his only condition while on bail is that he cannot be left alone with the child which is understandable given the circumstances, he understands why they've put that in place and is also happy with that while it's being investigated.
They've told him that he can live as he normally would and they will be calling tomorrow to make sure he is ok.
He is my younger brother and I just want to protect him.
I just hope and pray it's ok.
My heart is with you for sure xxx
Same as my son , on first interview solicitor if worth anything will be saying no comment to anything police put to him as they don't have any evidence until searching the devices . Did they take devices ?
My son said very similar to your brother, you have to remember the shame etc they will not be wanting to tell the truth just yet. Keep an eye on him in respect mental health .
I pray to God you have a good outcome in this . My son only told me the truth when he was interviewed the 2nd time and police informed me that they had found evidence he still tried to hide it and I told him I knew so he needs to start telling me the truth. There was 400 iioc (gutted) .
He has a fantastic job .. never been in any trouble.. friends with a great social life and huge prospects . Which obviously will loose most of that.
Take care of each other xx
My son said very similar to your brother, you have to remember the shame etc they will not be wanting to tell the truth just yet. Keep an eye on him in respect mental health .
I pray to God you have a good outcome in this . My son only told me the truth when he was interviewed the 2nd time and police informed me that they had found evidence he still tried to hide it and I told him I knew so he needs to start telling me the truth. There was 400 iioc (gutted) .
He has a fantastic job .. never been in any trouble.. friends with a great social life and huge prospects . Which obviously will loose most of that.
Take care of each other xx
Oh gosh, I can't even begin to image what you've been through.
He was very upfront with the police, they only took his phone and a broken laptop. No images but apparently his email address was used on a new social media website (can't even remember the name) and that's all they have regarding intel.
the laptop they took has been broken since he was about 16/17 and he was very upfront to say that there would be pictures of an ex gf at that age but that he got them at 17 (I'm sure they would be able to confirm that with dates and what not)
I pray you get some peace for yourself and that you are not dealing with this all on your own.
xxx
He was very upfront with the police, they only took his phone and a broken laptop. No images but apparently his email address was used on a new social media website (can't even remember the name) and that's all they have regarding intel.
the laptop they took has been broken since he was about 16/17 and he was very upfront to say that there would be pictures of an ex gf at that age but that he got them at 17 (I'm sure they would be able to confirm that with dates and what not)
I pray you get some peace for yourself and that you are not dealing with this all on your own.
xxx
Hi Solost
im in the same position as you, my brother has been charged and is awaiting sentencing.
Our families lives have been turned upside down in the space of a few months and will undoubtably be even more turmoil when the sentence is handed down.
I still don't have a full picture in terms of his charges, but I am now focussed on trying to get things in order in case he is sent to prison.
House/Car/Job/finances etc.... I feel sick to the pit of my stomach just typing this..
This forum has been a godsend, with people being able to comprehend and understand what you are going through.
I think for me, councilling is needed as I'm struggling day to day with it.
I hope you can find some comfort and direction in reading some of the posts and others experiences, to try and help you come to terms with your own emotions.
im in the same position as you, my brother has been charged and is awaiting sentencing.
Our families lives have been turned upside down in the space of a few months and will undoubtably be even more turmoil when the sentence is handed down.
I still don't have a full picture in terms of his charges, but I am now focussed on trying to get things in order in case he is sent to prison.
House/Car/Job/finances etc.... I feel sick to the pit of my stomach just typing this..
This forum has been a godsend, with people being able to comprehend and understand what you are going through.
I think for me, councilling is needed as I'm struggling day to day with it.
I hope you can find some comfort and direction in reading some of the posts and others experiences, to try and help you come to terms with your own emotions.
Solost
Thank you, I am dealing with this alone but come on the forum . I have phoned the helpline though .
I am pleased your brother has been upfront,I truly hope that nothing comes of this for you and your family .
Thinking of you xx
Thank you, I am dealing with this alone but come on the forum . I have phoned the helpline though .
I am pleased your brother has been upfront,I truly hope that nothing comes of this for you and your family .
Thinking of you xx