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I think my initial post got a little lost whilst waiting for it to be accepted. This could turn into a big ramble that makes little sense so let me apologise now.
I am a little over a week since my world was turned upside down. The first few days there were a variety of emotions and lots of tears. Since then, I am numb the majority of the time. My partner is my safe place, my home and although our current situation is a result of his actions, I can't keep that at the front of my mind.
Am i crazy? I feel like my brain is split up into different pieces which I'm guessing is a coping mechanism and I just shut the parts down that I don't want to think about.
I'm trying to work out whether what I am doing is healthy or not, although my gut says no. I feel like i do need to space just to gain some clarity but he has nowhere to go and i waslnt to process in my own space. Is that wrong? Am i being selfish?
Where did your partners go? Is there any actual support or places they can stay?
I think my initial post got a little lost whilst waiting for it to be accepted. This could turn into a big ramble that makes little sense so let me apologise now.
I am a little over a week since my world was turned upside down. The first few days there were a variety of emotions and lots of tears. Since then, I am numb the majority of the time. My partner is my safe place, my home and although our current situation is a result of his actions, I can't keep that at the front of my mind.
Am i crazy? I feel like my brain is split up into different pieces which I'm guessing is a coping mechanism and I just shut the parts down that I don't want to think about.
I'm trying to work out whether what I am doing is healthy or not, although my gut says no. I feel like i do need to space just to gain some clarity but he has nowhere to go and i waslnt to process in my own space. Is that wrong? Am i being selfish?
Where did your partners go? Is there any actual support or places they can stay?
Hey hunny
Sorry you find yourself here but welcome.
I take it you have no children? For many of us we don't have a choice because police and social services won't usually allow overnight stays with the kids. Although my anger and mixed emotions... I told the police to bail him to his mums anyway.
The mixed emotions you are feeling is completely normal. Every women on here I am sure will agree that there is no bigger roller-coaster of emotions than this.
Check out my post under understanding why... Advice for new members. I hope it helps.
What you need most right now is time to proceeds everyhing.... Does he have a friend of family he can stay with? There are hostels he can go in if you speak to your local council.
Good luck hunny. Sending Love and strength xx
Sorry you find yourself here but welcome.
I take it you have no children? For many of us we don't have a choice because police and social services won't usually allow overnight stays with the kids. Although my anger and mixed emotions... I told the police to bail him to his mums anyway.
The mixed emotions you are feeling is completely normal. Every women on here I am sure will agree that there is no bigger roller-coaster of emotions than this.
Check out my post under understanding why... Advice for new members. I hope it helps.
What you need most right now is time to proceeds everyhing.... Does he have a friend of family he can stay with? There are hostels he can go in if you speak to your local council.
Good luck hunny. Sending Love and strength xx
No we do not have any children. I don't think I could let him go to a hostel or anything similar because I would just worry.
He has approached the idea with his Mum however she is not on board. I think he is going to try again in the next couple of days.
He has looked at renting somewhere but I have no idea how we could fund that. Nevermind when the time actually comes for him to leave. Is anyone else surprised at how we still stand??
Thank you so much for your reply.
He has approached the idea with his Mum however she is not on board. I think he is going to try again in the next couple of days.
He has looked at renting somewhere but I have no idea how we could fund that. Nevermind when the time actually comes for him to leave. Is anyone else surprised at how we still stand??
Thank you so much for your reply.