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kls

Member since
March 2019

62 posts

Posted Thu April 15, 2021 9:04amReport post

Has anyone ever done this? My OH is before the magistrate next month, but it will definitely go to crown (500 A, 300 B and about 14000 C). We are still living together, largely because I'm the only breadwinner and he can't afford anywhere as he's got no income. To avoid some of the upcoming nightmare, I thought maybe changing my name back to my maiden. At least there's less connection, and as he doesn't use social media (FB etc). Also, I feel like right now I want my "own" name back.

If you have, how did it work?

kls

Member since
March 2019

62 posts

Posted Fri April 16, 2021 8:57amReport post

Yes it's mostly to put distance, and fear of connection being made if it gets out in the public. I don't want to divorce him, but I feel like I need to clearly separate myself from what he's done. It's not a common surname sadly which I always liked but sadly isn't so good now.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Sun April 18, 2021 6:25amReport post

So if my husband was to do this is it allowed? As in he's RUI but obviously it's an ongoing investigation with the police so they have his name now, his birth name?. I'm just thinking about different scenarios! If the police did decide to release a photo and article about him after he was sentenced would they use his new name against his photo?. If people we know saw it then they'd know it was still him? Does that make sense?!

Also I call him my husband on here but actually we aren't married so I have my own surname but the kids have his

Edited Sun April 18, 2021 6:27am

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Wed April 21, 2021 9:37amReport post

Thanks for that Lee!, to be honest just after the knock my husband deleted all social media. I will also come off Facebook closer to going to court ( he's RUI so may be a while yet). It's the kids mainly that could be an issue. They mainly live on TikTok and Snapchat with abit of instragram so yeah if it all came out around here it would be parents of their friends that could very well say something. That's my biggest fear, we live in one of those towns that love this sort of drama and everyone knows everyone!. I have a tonne of different sets of " mum friends", all the things connected with my kids, they are very sociable. I dread it all coming out especially as I'm still with my husband and will support him through it all!. People may not understand that will they?!