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LittleLostElla8

Member since
April 2021

15 posts

Posted Mon April 26, 2021 7:59amReport post

Morning all,

My partner has no moved out and I am going back to work on Wednesday. I really want to get a variety of things in place, coping strategies because I can not continue to just hide.

I have started the course with Bloom. Does anyone have any books that they have found useful or anything else that has just helped?

Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Tue April 27, 2021 9:45amReport post

I'd recommend, Art of Happiness by Dalai Lama, Daring Greatly by Berne Brown, Porn Addicts Wife by Sandy Brown. Have a look at ted talks on you tube, lots of inspirational videos. Good that you've found Bloom, there are lots of great courses there.
We really need partner support groups. It's hard to achieve but a few of us have managed it! I'm in a local one now through my therapist and a what's app group. Great for emotional and practical support. It's really doesn't matter if you stay in the relationship or leave it, the trauma is shared. xx

LittleLostElla8

Member since
April 2021

15 posts

Posted Tue April 27, 2021 10:50amReport post

Thank you. I'll have a look. I have received counselling from work which has been helpful and the bloom course is really helping and makes a lot of sense.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Tue April 27, 2021 2:46pmReport post

I had CBT therapy straight after the knock ( my doctor referred me). It really helped with my extreme anxiety. She didn't focus on what my husband had done more to do with helping me with the worry. I also found huge support in the early weeks from all the amazing strong ladies on here I've always said women naturally rally round and support other women and honestly this forum has been a much needed support to me. I'm 100% suppprting my husband and actually we are getting on brilliant. In fact at times I think it hasn't happened to us but yes we have this big limbo hanging over us. He's RUI but things have settled down. We are happy, the huge arguements at the beginning aren't happening now. I just have this thing in the back of my mind that it will come crashing down but we are a strong couple. The thing that would make it all go horribly wrong is if it came out in the media.

Tabs I'll look out for some of your recommendations, cheers! And as always Lee you are such a support, hope your doing ok love xx

Edited Tue April 27, 2021 2:47pm

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Tue April 27, 2021 3:05pmReport post

Tabs, I've just bought Porn addicts wife, the reviews on Amazon looked good so cheers!.