Hello Wednesday at 4 pm the knock on the door asking when my 14 year old son would be home, they needed his phone. I cried didn't understand what they were saying. He is autistic he goes to a special school. He handed his phone over calmly gave them the pin code but unfortunately he then decided to grab it back. Next thing uniform police turn up for backup as my son is preventing the plain clothes to leave through the door. Next thing 3 police cars and a swam of 5 uniformed officers bundle my son. He was not violent nor was he shouting. He wanted his phone back. So not only do I have the trauma of the reason why they wanted the phone i now have made a complaint about how inappropriate the uniform police where in dealing with a vulnerable autistic child.
my son has no clue why his phone has been taken. He didn't understand what child pornography was or is. I'm hoping it's a terrible mistake but until they do forensics I don't know.
I feel as though I've been abandoned and no emotional support has been given until today when the supervisor detective contacted me and apologised how the uniformed police behaved and explained further about what my son may have done. Initially I thought the complete worse. I'm not sure what is going to happen. I constantly cry, my son is confused. I hope this forum may help.
my son has no clue why his phone has been taken. He didn't understand what child pornography was or is. I'm hoping it's a terrible mistake but until they do forensics I don't know.
I feel as though I've been abandoned and no emotional support has been given until today when the supervisor detective contacted me and apologised how the uniformed police behaved and explained further about what my son may have done. Initially I thought the complete worse. I'm not sure what is going to happen. I constantly cry, my son is confused. I hope this forum may help.
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Such a sad position to be in, your poor son only 14. Police don't have a clue, please carry on with the complaint do not let them get away with it, if they could do that with an adult present imagine what they could do without one. Your probably going through all kinds of emotions and your son too.
Please reach out when you need to, this can be a long process .
Sending a virtual hug x
Such a sad position to be in, your poor son only 14. Police don't have a clue, please carry on with the complaint do not let them get away with it, if they could do that with an adult present imagine what they could do without one. Your probably going through all kinds of emotions and your son too.
Please reach out when you need to, this can be a long process .
Sending a virtual hug x
After reading your post I felt the need to reply. I am so sorry to hear the experience you and your son had with the police, sadly it is not uncommon that they have very little understanding or training on dealing with young people who are on the autistic spectrum and vulnerable.
If you have not already done so I would recommend you ring the Stop it Now Helpline or contact them by email. They will be able to offer you support and help as to how your can support your son through this process and what support you need too.
If you have not already done so I would recommend you ring the Stop it Now Helpline or contact them by email. They will be able to offer you support and help as to how your can support your son through this process and what support you need too.
Just a thought, the charity Young Minds may also be of help. The link is
https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/
If they are unable to help, they are normally good at signposting you elsewhere.
https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/
If they are unable to help, they are normally good at signposting you elsewhere.
Thank you so much I really appreciate your support x
Hey hunny,
So sorry to hear what the police put your family though its horrific for a vulnerable child!
Have you spoken to the helpline? I know another lady who's son for was 15 when the knock happened. LF have provided family as well as one of one therapy for him which I'd helping through this long journey.
Take care of you and your family xxxxx
So sorry to hear what the police put your family though its horrific for a vulnerable child!
Have you spoken to the helpline? I know another lady who's son for was 15 when the knock happened. LF have provided family as well as one of one therapy for him which I'd helping through this long journey.
Take care of you and your family xxxxx
I haven't phoned the helpline yet. I don't feel I can say it out loud if that makes sense? X
It makes perfect sense that you are finding it hard to speak to the helpline, you have experienced trauma .
If you are unable to speak with the helpline you can email then instead. We took this route intially until we felt we could speak to them. If you do email, it will probably take a few days for them to get back to you, but you will receive a detailed response.
Thinking of you and your son.
If you are unable to speak with the helpline you can email then instead. We took this route intially until we felt we could speak to them. If you do email, it will probably take a few days for them to get back to you, but you will receive a detailed response.
Thinking of you and your son.