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Luis

Member since
August 2020

37 posts

Posted Fri May 14, 2021 4:16pmReport post

After nearly 12 months of hell.

My dad was given a suspended sentance, 30 hours community service and 7 years on the register today.

He was charged with talking to a minor online that was a police decoy and 4 images.

Apparently the judge was understanding but the CPS wanted to ...in my dads words 'hang him'

he had a good solicitor and he fought dads case and talked like he knew him.
the judge also mentioned that it was dads character references we all provided which sealed the deal. He mentioned how lucky he was to have an exceptional supportive family!



so now we start with our new normal I have a broken dad, now a different dad, someone I'll have to get to know again. The pain and suffering my mum has endured I will never know .. she now has a different marriage, one that she didn't want.

It's not over merely starting .. but I am so grateful that we are done with the courts and dad didn't get sent to prison.

to all of the families just starting out with this torture and the ones still stuck in it ...keep strong and carry on because that's all you can do. ??. Peace.

T2021

Member since
December 2020

73 posts

Posted Fri May 14, 2021 7:56pmReport post

Pleased you have an outcome and can start to move forward. Can I ask did he get a SHPO, thanks

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Fri May 14, 2021 10:15pmReport post

Luis

Pleased this part is over and you and your family can start rebuilding.

Take care

Anne

Rainbowgirl80

Member since
May 2020

204 posts

Posted Sat May 15, 2021 1:22pmReport post

Hi Luis

So glad this part is over for you all and you cba move on with your lives and rebuild your family. Xxxxx

Notsurewheretogo

Member since
December 2019

89 posts

Posted Sat May 15, 2021 3:14pmReport post

I am so so glad you got an outcome!

Especially this sort of outcome with convo I hope it goes the same for my family.

Can I ask did he plead guilty?

Thanks

Xxx

Luis

Member since
August 2020

37 posts

Posted Sat May 15, 2021 4:49pmReport post

Hi everyone ..

yes it's a good outcome. Yes he did plead guilty, so I know this helps and also the character references.

I need to find out the exact charges. shpo etc.

I did read online in the same week a man of 65 got sent to prison only the day before my dad in same courts for communication but it went on over 3 weeks and was quite horrific. But still it shows you older men are being sent to prison and that's what I was afraid of.



Now I am worried more about my mum, after this nightmare journey she is left living with a man she doesn't know and doesn't trust.



the future still feels uncertain for us all.