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32Siena

Member since
May 2021

2 posts

Posted Sat May 15, 2021 7:17pmReport post

In need of some advice really or wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation.

My ex husband was arrested last year and put on bail and under investigation which has now been dropped. This was due to a lack of evidence or failure to retrieve evidence from his phone. This was relating to downloading and sharing of images. I've made it clear I didn't want to know the full extent of what he did and shared, of which he confessed to the police right from the start. So after finding out that no further action is going to be taken im struggling to come to terms with what to do now.

Together we have 2 young children which when he was on bail, he was only allowed to see supervised. He had to leave the family home and I've since divorced him. Because we have children social services were involved and visited school etc but now it seems my ex can go back to "normal" life and legally be around our children without supervision. I feel let down. It seemed everyone jumped into action to put measures in place to protect my children (rightly so) but now after the investigation has been dropped, im left wondering how to go about my ex being around my children and what im supposed to think about him. He confessed what he had done so I am very shocked he isn't going to be charged. I feel so on edge and unable to trust him but I feel I legally can't impose any restrictions because in the eyes of the law hes no longer under investigation. The last year has been a living hell and im just at a loss with how I deal with picking up the pieces.

Cher

Member since
March 2019

103 posts

Posted Wed May 19, 2021 9:43amReport post

Hi, I would get in contact with social services to check if they are ok with unsupervised contact, because he owned up to doing it social services with have concerns, you don't want to give him unsupervised contact and then get in trouble yourself. Personally I wouldn't give unsupervised, because you could never be 100% sure they would be safe, but that's just my opinion and you're the only one that can make that decision. X

Edited Wed May 19, 2021 9:44am