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I do not feel I can live with my husband after 49 years , I know he was only arrested last Thursday but I can’t believe a word he says . Any advice welcome . How do I get the process started divorce ?he moves out?
Hello hunny
Sorry you have found yourself here.
My husband was arrested 1 year ago tomorrow. Those early days are absolutely devastating.... Your whole world comes crashing down on you.
Is there anywhere he could go for now? I would give yourself some time to digest things and process things before you do anything hasty. There's lots of useful information on here and the forum.
Whatever decisions you make in the future is not for now... A good therapist will tell you to never make big decisions when going through a trauma. Xxxx
Sorry you have found yourself here.
My husband was arrested 1 year ago tomorrow. Those early days are absolutely devastating.... Your whole world comes crashing down on you.
Is there anywhere he could go for now? I would give yourself some time to digest things and process things before you do anything hasty. There's lots of useful information on here and the forum.
Whatever decisions you make in the future is not for now... A good therapist will tell you to never make big decisions when going through a trauma. Xxxx
Thanks for this timely advice.
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I agree with Rainbow girl. Lots of things can be said or felt when the reality first hits and there are many conflicting emotions shooting around your head. My feelings have changed over the last 15 months, and I'm no longer angry with my OH - I just don't really feel anything. But, in the early days, when everything was very raw, I just didn't want to know him.
Don'tunderstand, I asked my husband for a 6 month seperation for him to work on sorting himself out and for me to get the head space I needed. The early days are horrendous and it is a long journey. I decided to stay in my marriage as my husband has done all he can to address his behaviour. I had a mantra which I still stand by and that's I'm staying for now, it means I can change my mind at anytime.
Please do not rush into anything. You have as much time as you need. Sending love, we all know the hell you go through in the early days. Xx
Please do not rush into anything. You have as much time as you need. Sending love, we all know the hell you go through in the early days. Xx
Don't understand - only you know your individual circumstances and only you can draw the lines to say whether your relationship is feasible. I'd advise talking to a close friend or family member. If you know you need to proceed with divorce then most solicitors provide an hour free consultation. If you seperate and he moves out then you can get things like discounted council tax of you become the only adult in the house. After 2 yrs seperation you can divorce without having to provide other grounds.
I agree making hasty decisions in the middle of trauma is ill advised but everyone's current situations and pasts are different and you do what you got to do
I agree making hasty decisions in the middle of trauma is ill advised but everyone's current situations and pasts are different and you do what you got to do