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Morning everyone,
I'm trying to weigh up all my options for me and my children.
Has anyone been able to avoid people finding out? Been lucky enough for it to not be in the press?
I wonder whether I am better off moving to avoid the association for my children growing up.
I don't want to pull them out of school or away from their friends but they are young enough that they would have time to settle again before heading off for high school.
Have any of you changed your names afterwards? Or not felt the need to.
We live a very private life and I can't stand the thought of people knowing who we are and this defining my children for the rest of their lives. All I want to do is give them the best chance I can at a normal life.
I don't know what to do.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks.
I'm trying to weigh up all my options for me and my children.
Has anyone been able to avoid people finding out? Been lucky enough for it to not be in the press?
I wonder whether I am better off moving to avoid the association for my children growing up.
I don't want to pull them out of school or away from their friends but they are young enough that they would have time to settle again before heading off for high school.
Have any of you changed your names afterwards? Or not felt the need to.
We live a very private life and I can't stand the thought of people knowing who we are and this defining my children for the rest of their lives. All I want to do is give them the best chance I can at a normal life.
I don't know what to do.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks.
Hi
Thought I would reply although I don't have many awnsers for you unfortunately. I didn't want your post to get lost.
I thought about what you are thinking about doing very often. I am now in this 18 months down the line so now too late anyway he has court in July.
Many cases don't hit the media and Many do I believe its a 50 - 50 chance.
I believe now my son will make media as he works for the nhs so its not good at all. I worry about my daughter being bullied if and when it comes out but I think I will just pull her out of school if that happens.
I'm sorry you find yourself here, how far into this are you ? When you say changing your name are you on about yours ?
I am too a very private person I have 1 and 1 only friend , I very much keep myself to myself .
Sending some strength your way x
Thought I would reply although I don't have many awnsers for you unfortunately. I didn't want your post to get lost.
I thought about what you are thinking about doing very often. I am now in this 18 months down the line so now too late anyway he has court in July.
Many cases don't hit the media and Many do I believe its a 50 - 50 chance.
I believe now my son will make media as he works for the nhs so its not good at all. I worry about my daughter being bullied if and when it comes out but I think I will just pull her out of school if that happens.
I'm sorry you find yourself here, how far into this are you ? When you say changing your name are you on about yours ?
I am too a very private person I have 1 and 1 only friend , I very much keep myself to myself .
Sending some strength your way x
Hi Becky,
Thank you for taking the time to respond. It's still very raw for me, only a few months. I suppose I'm trying to be proactive rather than reactive. Should I move now rather than my few friends find out. I haven't lived here my whole life so I think it would be easy to move on, I don't have family.
Im sorry you're in a very tough situation too.
Im sure you'll know what to do about your daughters schooling when the time comes.
X
Thank you for taking the time to respond. It's still very raw for me, only a few months. I suppose I'm trying to be proactive rather than reactive. Should I move now rather than my few friends find out. I haven't lived here my whole life so I think it would be easy to move on, I don't have family.
Im sorry you're in a very tough situation too.
Im sure you'll know what to do about your daughters schooling when the time comes.
X
Your very welcome, I absolutely know where you are coming from. I think if you will be happier moving then you need to go, me however have lived here my whole adult life and love my house.. you know when you just get everything right in it. My children are older 15,19 and then the 21 y/o who done the crime. If they were younger I too may have moved.
I think obviously you have to weigh up the pros and cons , it sounds like more pros to go.
I'm so sorry to hear you don't have family.. although at the moment I wish I didn't as if it comes out in the media they will obviously be very disappointed that I didn't tell them.
Keep being proactive, positive outlook means you and your children will be just fine.
Sending a virtual hug X
I think obviously you have to weigh up the pros and cons , it sounds like more pros to go.
I'm so sorry to hear you don't have family.. although at the moment I wish I didn't as if it comes out in the media they will obviously be very disappointed that I didn't tell them.
Keep being proactive, positive outlook means you and your children will be just fine.
Sending a virtual hug X