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we got a knock at the door last week husband arrested for looking at pictures on Internet.
he was released on bail to not stay overnight just to our two young children. he came back and told me everything.
i am now so lost and confused i know he would never do anything to our children no images have been taken from him of our children or anybody else. just what he has found online. i have now found out he is a porn addict and also got abused as a child that he has kept to himself. he has said that he felt he needed help a while ago but thought he could deal with it and now here we are.
he is still coming to see our children daily he has always been a hands on dad and husband he said he tried to stop once he realised he was serious about me and then again once our first born arrived. but while pregnant last year he said he relapsed and received pictures of somebody and shared them in wich he got caught for.
im so scared for what is going to happen i have ss coming today all i can do lately is cry. i feel like i want to be close to him and at same time i just sit and cry all the time. i have people asking me if i will stay with him. but then i am feeling judged because at the moment i do still love him his my husband and he is really struggling with his mental health wich after all this as come out he is finally getting help for and already been put on anxiety and depression tablets and being referred to counselling.
i just need somebody to talk to see if this is thr normal way of thinking
he was released on bail to not stay overnight just to our two young children. he came back and told me everything.
i am now so lost and confused i know he would never do anything to our children no images have been taken from him of our children or anybody else. just what he has found online. i have now found out he is a porn addict and also got abused as a child that he has kept to himself. he has said that he felt he needed help a while ago but thought he could deal with it and now here we are.
he is still coming to see our children daily he has always been a hands on dad and husband he said he tried to stop once he realised he was serious about me and then again once our first born arrived. but while pregnant last year he said he relapsed and received pictures of somebody and shared them in wich he got caught for.
im so scared for what is going to happen i have ss coming today all i can do lately is cry. i feel like i want to be close to him and at same time i just sit and cry all the time. i have people asking me if i will stay with him. but then i am feeling judged because at the moment i do still love him his my husband and he is really struggling with his mental health wich after all this as come out he is finally getting help for and already been put on anxiety and depression tablets and being referred to counselling.
i just need somebody to talk to see if this is thr normal way of thinking
Hi, my partner has had i think a porn addiction, this was before I met him, he was in a very bad place watched legal porn and then worse and worse for the risk, he managed to stop before he met me because he realised what he was doing was very wrong, he doesn't want to make excuses and is more concerned about the effect and people he love, its so hard I am really scared of people I know finding out, he has magistrates Court this morning, I have found this site really good at first just to read, then to post on I have only told my sister because I know she wouldn't judge, I think advice on here has helped, especially taking one day at a time, love to you and hugs
thank you for your reply.
yes it sounds like the same started as 18+ stuff then as if it wasn't enough and got worse.
I'm so scared of the outcome for all of us. he is seeking help wich i guess is the main thing at the moment and it is all so fresh
yes it sounds like the same started as 18+ stuff then as if it wasn't enough and got worse.
I'm so scared of the outcome for all of us. he is seeking help wich i guess is the main thing at the moment and it is all so fresh
Got through magistrates yesterday, got crown court in 4 weeks, my partners dsd is standing by him and his exwife has been really good with supervised visits my children are both grown up, my biggest fear is them finding out, and my elderly parents who know wouldn't understand my partners solicitor told him to take one thing at a time and not to worry about next thing till it happens which we are trying very hard to do, it does help, we don't live together which I think also helps as it gives us both break from each other, I love him and dont want to be without himbut it has been so so hard on here on understanding why there is some very good posts which I found really helped, you make sure you take care of yourself hard though it is,