I think Words are being put into my childs nmouth.
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Hi if my youngest tells nursery he's seen his dad when he hasn't and they inform SS what happens?
do SW need to prove that he has seen his dad or do I have to prove he hasn't?
I will try to keep it brief. My youngest in nursery was supposed to have a day trip out to see my friends and their kids for a play date. It was supposed to happen in a play area closer to his dads home than where we live but it never came about so I took my son that day to the local park near home instead alone just me and him. My in-laws did the nursery run that day as I was working. So I get a phone call telling me my son told nursery who then rang SS that he'd been to the play area with his dad. He'd named the play area in question and gave some details of what he'd supposed to have done. I've since had a family member question my son and she couldn't get him to repeat what he'd supposed to have told nursery but managed to manipulate other impossible answers from him like did u see the purple sky yesterday? Did u see the kangeroos? And did u ride on them? All to which my son answered yes.
I think but I can't prove that my in-laws has mentioned on the nursery run to the staff that we were going to the play area and that when nursery have done a nappy change on my son they have asked him questions naming the play area (which when u ask him the name of it he doesn't know it) did u see ur dad there and so on? Can they do this if they did? My sons not seen his dad for months and is suffering because of this.
Im having trouble fighting SS and proving that I'm a fit mother without this added to it the mix. I'm thinking of talking to the head of the nursery and expressing some of my thoughts or feelings about this and other stuff or would that cause more trouble? Do I just leave it be and forget about it till the next phone call from them?
thanks
do SW need to prove that he has seen his dad or do I have to prove he hasn't?
I will try to keep it brief. My youngest in nursery was supposed to have a day trip out to see my friends and their kids for a play date. It was supposed to happen in a play area closer to his dads home than where we live but it never came about so I took my son that day to the local park near home instead alone just me and him. My in-laws did the nursery run that day as I was working. So I get a phone call telling me my son told nursery who then rang SS that he'd been to the play area with his dad. He'd named the play area in question and gave some details of what he'd supposed to have done. I've since had a family member question my son and she couldn't get him to repeat what he'd supposed to have told nursery but managed to manipulate other impossible answers from him like did u see the purple sky yesterday? Did u see the kangeroos? And did u ride on them? All to which my son answered yes.
I think but I can't prove that my in-laws has mentioned on the nursery run to the staff that we were going to the play area and that when nursery have done a nappy change on my son they have asked him questions naming the play area (which when u ask him the name of it he doesn't know it) did u see ur dad there and so on? Can they do this if they did? My sons not seen his dad for months and is suffering because of this.
Im having trouble fighting SS and proving that I'm a fit mother without this added to it the mix. I'm thinking of talking to the head of the nursery and expressing some of my thoughts or feelings about this and other stuff or would that cause more trouble? Do I just leave it be and forget about it till the next phone call from them?
thanks
Oh, how stressful for you!! You know the nursery staff... Do you think they'd do that? It is very easy to put words in a preschoolers mouth thats for sure! They absolutely shouldn't be asking him any questions, all they should be doing is just keeping an ear out incase he says or does anything concerning without a prompt! What's your relationship like with the nursery manager. I personally would definitely arrange a meeting and not leave it, if you don't express that this is incorrect than it might just be presumed that it is correct... Does that make sense? I would be careful with you're wording in the meeting so you don't come across accusing. I don't know if you planned to but I wouldn't say I think they've put words in his mouth... Tell them the situation of your plans changing ect then say it's really concerning that he's said XYZ and confused as he doesn't know the name of the park, you've never called it by name so you don't know who would've told him or where's he has learnt it. Say you know the nursery are there to safeguard your son and want what is best for him and so do you but is it possible that he was asked very closed questions. Such as was daddy there VS who did you play with... I wouldn't say your family member questioned as SS I don't think will like that but maybe just that in the passed you joked with him and asked if the sky was purple and he said yes. Have you called The Family Rights Group ? They're brilliant for this! Search them online and you'll find there page. I think the helpline is mon-fri 9.30-3. They've helped me so many times.
What have SS said to you about why you're not protective? I had this issue and they couldn't tell me anything, turns out they were just be ridiculously over cautious just to make there job easier.
Hope that made sense! Let me know if not and I'll try to cut back the waffling!
xxx
What have SS said to you about why you're not protective? I had this issue and they couldn't tell me anything, turns out they were just be ridiculously over cautious just to make there job easier.
Hope that made sense! Let me know if not and I'll try to cut back the waffling!
xxx
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Thank you all for ur replies.
so SW has been out and said she understands given his age he doesn't understand time difference between 1 week and 1 month but with what he's saying and has said in the past that they are upping the visits to once a week and will be doing unannounced visits.
good luck now the weather is nice I'm hardly in and my hours keep changing at work. I never seem to get any further forward with SS. I can't wait for next core meeting that will be fun.
R x
so SW has been out and said she understands given his age he doesn't understand time difference between 1 week and 1 month but with what he's saying and has said in the past that they are upping the visits to once a week and will be doing unannounced visits.
good luck now the weather is nice I'm hardly in and my hours keep changing at work. I never seem to get any further forward with SS. I can't wait for next core meeting that will be fun.
R x