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My Father was took away from his work by two undercover policemen on the 29th of August 2019 for questioning, he was told from his IP address he was talking to a minor online turned out to be a policeman daddy has said it was a legal site he was on and this person popped up to say hello to my dad first the person said they where 18 to begin with then said no I'm actually 13 my father said then I can't talk to you but proceeded to talk on there was sexual induanuo's in the conversation! I said why did you continue a conversation with a child he said I knew she wasn't a child (no excuse) , they took away laptop his phone and my mother's iPad too from the house, he was said there would be further questioning 6 months after his arrest it was cancelled for another 6 months then another one cancelled there has been no updates if they have seen anything on devices seized do they let you know before now he is due to go back next week that's if it's not cancelled again, I feel so down and worry about my siblings mental health more than I do my own x
My Father was took away from his work by two undercover policemen on the 29th of August 2019 for questioning, he was told from his IP address he was talking to a minor online turned out to be a policeman daddy has said it was a legal site he was on and this person popped up to say hello to my dad first the person said they where 18 to begin with then said no I'm actually 13 my father said then I can't talk to you but proceeded to talk on there was sexual induanuo's in the conversation! I said why did you continue a conversation with a child he said I knew she wasn't a child (no excuse) , they took away laptop his phone and my mother's iPad too from the house, he was said there would be further questioning 6 months after his arrest it was cancelled for another 6 months then another one cancelled there has been no updates if they have seen anything on devices seized do they let you know before now he is due to go back next week that's if it's not cancelled again, I feel so down and worry about my siblings mental health more than I do my own x
Hello Worrieddaugther,
Thank you for reaching out for some support and advice from the Family and Friends Forum. We have noticed that this post has not yet received a response from other forum users, hopefully you will do soon. I recognise that it can be difficult to write on this forum for the first time, so well done for taking this step. It can also be really difficult to wrap one’s head around it.
Unfortunately, we cannot say when your father will be questioned or if the police inform you if they have found anything prior to questioning, but if you have a read through some of the topics, others may have asked similar questions. You can even type key words into the search bar in the top right to try and find topics that may provide you with an answer.
Furthermore, you may find it helpful to access this section of the Stop It Now! Website which explores the criminal justice process further:
https://www.stopitnow.org.uk/concerned-about-your-own-thoughts-or-behaviour/concerned-about-use-of-the-internet/get-the-facts/consequences/involvement-with-the-criminal-justice-system-cjs/.
I would like to suggest that, with the uncertainty of your father’s situation, take some time to look after yourself. This could be simple self-care activities such as going on a walk alone or engaging in a hobby you enjoy. It is important that you take care of yourself at this difficult time. I would also encourage you and your father to reach out to us on our Stop It Now!helpline (0808 1000 900) for further support and guidance if you would like to.
You have mentioned that you are concerned about your sibling’s mental health. This is a really difficult time for your family. Sometimes it can really help to discuss how we are feeling during difficult times with someone outside the situation. Therefore, I would like to suggest that your siblings, your mother and yourself call the helpline above because we also support family members of people who have committed sexual offences towards children. It may be helpful for anyone in your family who is struggling with their mental health at this time to make an appointment with their GP who can support them directly or refer them to other mental health services.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for reaching out for some support and advice from the Family and Friends Forum. We have noticed that this post has not yet received a response from other forum users, hopefully you will do soon. I recognise that it can be difficult to write on this forum for the first time, so well done for taking this step. It can also be really difficult to wrap one’s head around it.
Unfortunately, we cannot say when your father will be questioned or if the police inform you if they have found anything prior to questioning, but if you have a read through some of the topics, others may have asked similar questions. You can even type key words into the search bar in the top right to try and find topics that may provide you with an answer.
Furthermore, you may find it helpful to access this section of the Stop It Now! Website which explores the criminal justice process further:
https://www.stopitnow.org.uk/concerned-about-your-own-thoughts-or-behaviour/concerned-about-use-of-the-internet/get-the-facts/consequences/involvement-with-the-criminal-justice-system-cjs/.
I would like to suggest that, with the uncertainty of your father’s situation, take some time to look after yourself. This could be simple self-care activities such as going on a walk alone or engaging in a hobby you enjoy. It is important that you take care of yourself at this difficult time. I would also encourage you and your father to reach out to us on our Stop It Now!helpline (0808 1000 900) for further support and guidance if you would like to.
You have mentioned that you are concerned about your sibling’s mental health. This is a really difficult time for your family. Sometimes it can really help to discuss how we are feeling during difficult times with someone outside the situation. Therefore, I would like to suggest that your siblings, your mother and yourself call the helpline above because we also support family members of people who have committed sexual offences towards children. It may be helpful for anyone in your family who is struggling with their mental health at this time to make an appointment with their GP who can support them directly or refer them to other mental health services.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Thank you Lucy x
Hi Worrieddaughter,
I'm so sorry that you're in this situation, this must be incredibly hard for you.
from my own personal situation we had to keep asking the police for updates in regards to what devices had been checked and when they were planning on checking others. I understand it can be a lengthy process and it's not fair on the families involved, they seem to forget it's not just the person accused who's life has been turned upside down.
I'm not sure how old you are but there are always people around that can offer help and support. If you're happy to speak to a doctor they can refer you for talking therapy which may help you and your family process what has happened.
I'm sorry I can't be of more help but you can always write here if you need some advice or just need a rant. Take care x
I'm so sorry that you're in this situation, this must be incredibly hard for you.
from my own personal situation we had to keep asking the police for updates in regards to what devices had been checked and when they were planning on checking others. I understand it can be a lengthy process and it's not fair on the families involved, they seem to forget it's not just the person accused who's life has been turned upside down.
I'm not sure how old you are but there are always people around that can offer help and support. If you're happy to speak to a doctor they can refer you for talking therapy which may help you and your family process what has happened.
I'm sorry I can't be of more help but you can always write here if you need some advice or just need a rant. Take care x