Does anyone understand category C please?
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I met my partner at the end of 2019 on an online dating site, we began casually seeing each but I became really unwell and had to temporarily move home to be cared for...from the day we met he messaged me everyday morning noon and night...we would message things of an adult nature! He started to say he was falling for me...wished I was with him..felt lonely, had no company and had plans for us...I reciprocated...it was the one thing that helped me get better and tlc. However, after a hot weekend together in September he suddenly changed, went cold, few days passed, I messaged to ask what's wrong...he said he freaked out about possibility of relationship!! He blocked me when I suggested he was seeing someone else after denying it...I drove up to his house and waited for him, I calmly asked for an explanation, he eventually told me he has children, can't see them but not ready to tell me why...he wanted things back on with me...he remained pretty distant...it was odd. In October I was ready to relocate nearer him and restart work having recovered fully....he offered for me to move in with him, I agreed on one condition, that he explained why he can't see his children, he eventually said it was because he'd been in a dreadful marriage, extremely unhappy, he got a real problem with porn as a way of coping and his ex wife found images deemed underage and evidence he'd been cheating. He said he thought he was looking at pictures of a consenting age, I thought long and hard and chose to believe him, but requested a disclosure from the police to be sure...they said the images were cat C. It turns out he got back with his previous ex girlfriend during last year, whilst declaring undying love for me, plus two other liasons as well as messaging two women on an Internet dating site....I'm really struggling with it all
Hi there.
I met my partner when he was umder investigation. I too asked why he could not see his kids and he told me that he was caught for indecent images of children. The difference really between the man you spoke about and my partner is that my partner did not make excuses. He admitted he did wrong, had a problem and didn't seek the help needed at the time when he knew he should have.
Also yes the age of consent is 16 but it is illegal for sexual images of under 18s. Basically a 16 year old can have sex but they can't have photos or videos of them in a sexual manner. It's called child pornography for a reason. Under 18s are children in the eyes of the law.
Cat C is the lesser of seriesness of three types of categories but still troubling. I can't remember what the examples are. Though it sounds to me the man you mention either knew what he did was wrong but won't admit it, or genuinely thinks it's ok to view images and/or vids are 16-17 years olds. Also has he been sentenced? If under investigation there may be more to uncover.
Not sure from your post of you are thinking of sticking by him. But if so it is tough and I only stuck by my partner because my partner did the rehabilitation and doesn't make excuses and has worked to turn his life around
I met my partner when he was umder investigation. I too asked why he could not see his kids and he told me that he was caught for indecent images of children. The difference really between the man you spoke about and my partner is that my partner did not make excuses. He admitted he did wrong, had a problem and didn't seek the help needed at the time when he knew he should have.
Also yes the age of consent is 16 but it is illegal for sexual images of under 18s. Basically a 16 year old can have sex but they can't have photos or videos of them in a sexual manner. It's called child pornography for a reason. Under 18s are children in the eyes of the law.
Cat C is the lesser of seriesness of three types of categories but still troubling. I can't remember what the examples are. Though it sounds to me the man you mention either knew what he did was wrong but won't admit it, or genuinely thinks it's ok to view images and/or vids are 16-17 years olds. Also has he been sentenced? If under investigation there may be more to uncover.
Not sure from your post of you are thinking of sticking by him. But if so it is tough and I only stuck by my partner because my partner did the rehabilitation and doesn't make excuses and has worked to turn his life around