How you work around an SHPO
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Hi all.
my husband has been released under investigation. Currently living at home with me and the 2 children but he is here purely for their sakes. He is helping out with them, watching them and helping with errands etc.... my big worry is how I will cope if/when he gets charged and gets an SHPO. I'm guessing it will be supervised visits only.
I have no family and haven't told one single person what is happening. I'm am lying to everyone around me. I have no idea how I will cope doing all school runs and drops and pick ups. And all sports runs for both kids etc....I also work. I feel like I am being punished and I've done nothing wrong. I feel like I will never again be able to meet a friend for coffee or dinner and I will have no one. To help with my kids. It's making me so sad that my life is ruined. He is the one who stuck his head in the sand and lived in a fantasy world and i am being punished for his stupidity. He is getting therapy but I just don't get his reasons for doing all this.
my husband has been released under investigation. Currently living at home with me and the 2 children but he is here purely for their sakes. He is helping out with them, watching them and helping with errands etc.... my big worry is how I will cope if/when he gets charged and gets an SHPO. I'm guessing it will be supervised visits only.
I have no family and haven't told one single person what is happening. I'm am lying to everyone around me. I have no idea how I will cope doing all school runs and drops and pick ups. And all sports runs for both kids etc....I also work. I feel like I am being punished and I've done nothing wrong. I feel like I will never again be able to meet a friend for coffee or dinner and I will have no one. To help with my kids. It's making me so sad that my life is ruined. He is the one who stuck his head in the sand and lived in a fantasy world and i am being punished for his stupidity. He is getting therapy but I just don't get his reasons for doing all this.
Hi Starry,
I no exactly how you feel, I think it will all depend on ss, as my husbands shpo doesn't prevent him from being with our kids and the policeman even told me he has known people to come home with them, but ss have been totally different they have stopped me being able to supervise because they have deemed me to minimised wat he did, ( I feel like no one can see it from my point of u at all, I just wanted the nightmare to be over ) everyone here seems to be saying u need to show ss that u r taking it seriously and that u r taking steps to if things go wrong again and wat u would do, I think im still trying to figure this out. Are ss involved?
I no exactly how you feel, I think it will all depend on ss, as my husbands shpo doesn't prevent him from being with our kids and the policeman even told me he has known people to come home with them, but ss have been totally different they have stopped me being able to supervise because they have deemed me to minimised wat he did, ( I feel like no one can see it from my point of u at all, I just wanted the nightmare to be over ) everyone here seems to be saying u need to show ss that u r taking it seriously and that u r taking steps to if things go wrong again and wat u would do, I think im still trying to figure this out. Are ss involved?
Thank you Dawn.
they were involved in the beginning and spoke with me and the kids and him separately and were happy to close the case and happy that I was good enough to look after and protect the kids. I know they are likely to get back in contact if/when a conviction is made.
i am unsure whether me and him have a future. Right now I'd say no but he won't have anyone else to go to and he has tried to commit suicide when this all started. Although I don't think I want to be with him I want him alive to be in thenkids life so feel I have to support him or god knows what he will do!
they were involved in the beginning and spoke with me and the kids and him separately and were happy to close the case and happy that I was good enough to look after and protect the kids. I know they are likely to get back in contact if/when a conviction is made.
i am unsure whether me and him have a future. Right now I'd say no but he won't have anyone else to go to and he has tried to commit suicide when this all started. Although I don't think I want to be with him I want him alive to be in thenkids life so feel I have to support him or god knows what he will do!