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The knock came last October with police acting on intelligence from Google on one image. I was deveztated but supported my 12 and 15 while battling incurable cancer. He maintained his innocence and I suppose I stood by this but have carried out all supervision of my children.
After several extensions to bail he was finally reinterviewed yesterday. They found 70 odd ghost files of cat a cat b and cat c images on his desktop. He maintains non guilty plea suggesting virus, pop ups or second hand hard drives as possible factors. I really don't know what to believe. He re appears at police next Friday for Charing or not. I feel very lost and alone
After several extensions to bail he was finally reinterviewed yesterday. They found 70 odd ghost files of cat a cat b and cat c images on his desktop. He maintains non guilty plea suggesting virus, pop ups or second hand hard drives as possible factors. I really don't know what to believe. He re appears at police next Friday for Charing or not. I feel very lost and alone
Rara it is no surprise you feel lost but trust me when I say you are not alone. It is a devestating issue that has affected so many. Unfortunately only your partner can know the truth. I've read stories on here where the partner maintained innocence and were proven right and others where they were in denial and finally had to come clean. Not knowing must be horrible for you. Speaking to the helpline could be a good start for you if you haven't already?
I am going through this too, except my partner admitted he had been doing it and said he had a porn addiction. We have seperated and I have 2 young children. Dealing with the initial trauma, type of crime, unexpected seperation, sudden single parenthood and everything else has been such a huge challenge. Reading advice in here can help, though everyone's situations, journeys and outcomes are all different.
Have you managed to talk to any close friends or relatives to get some support?
Thinking of you xx
I am going through this too, except my partner admitted he had been doing it and said he had a porn addiction. We have seperated and I have 2 young children. Dealing with the initial trauma, type of crime, unexpected seperation, sudden single parenthood and everything else has been such a huge challenge. Reading advice in here can help, though everyone's situations, journeys and outcomes are all different.
Have you managed to talk to any close friends or relatives to get some support?
Thinking of you xx
It doesn't show the initial message as the reply is written and I just reread that you are also battling cancer. My goodness you have been dealt more than one person should ever have to deal with. If you have any questions reply to this feed or write on the 'discussion' section of the forum and you will find support xx
Hi RaRa, I am so very sorry for what you are going through! You are not alone....there are many of us, and we all try to support each other the best we can.
Try posting under discussion as that seems to be the most active part of this forum.
Hugs xx
Try posting under discussion as that seems to be the most active part of this forum.
Hugs xx
I am so sorry you are going through this. We got the knock in November and he was RUI. He now lives with his sister and has supervised contact with the kids. He denies communicating with minor and IIOC. I have no reason to disbelieve him, he appears to be truthful but honestly I dont know what to believe. Its endless limbo but in the meantime I'm building a life and moving forward as much as I can. Sounds like you have more than enough going on and need to make as much time as possible for you. Try not to let it consume you it's a long road ahead for him but for you it's a different road. Make the most of every day. I feel such guilt when I doubt him but sometimes i cant dispute the evidence and other days I accept the concept of hacking and virus on his phone. After the first few months I started to limit the time I spent thinking or talking about it. I've got 2 kids so I focus on them. One day I hope Its know the truth. I hope you get answers quickly and that the news is good. Look after yourself. Xx