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So it's court tomorrow my husband has just left to go to his mum's as he can't stay because of the children
His time two weeks ago we where ment to be in court but was told by the barista at 9.30pm at night it was cancelled and changed to tomorrow. My head is a mess it's feels like our last supper, my two youngest don't know really what's going on other than daddy can't live with us but my eldest daughter is awear that daddy has downloaded something that is illigal and has over heard today about him going to court tomorrow. Well she has had a cry giving daddy a hug before he went and it has broken me. I can never ever condone what he has done but I love this man so much I want my happy funny man I meet 14 years ago back and I know he wants that to and has been trying so hard to get help and support. Well the barista is still trying to get a suspended scents and I am hoping for that to ......but then all the emotions of the first day ' The Day of the knock ' the angry one min crying the next I am still angry at him for putting us as a family in this situation and why could he not talk to me before it got this bad. He is now talking to me alot more so we are taking the steps to recovery as they say. I am just so up and down today thinking about tomorrow he has already plead guilty so no trial. I'm scared of having to have the chat with my daughter if my husband gets prison time I just don't know how the hell I am going to get it out to her . I am feeling so drained and don't know how the hell I have kept it together for so long. Already hit papers last time in court at his plea hearing so I have had so much back lash from people even my house targeted so now got some help from victim support now I know it is going to hit papers again and I am going to have to deal with that starting again when it has only just stopped . When dose the light start shining at the end of this tunnel
Sorry just so so emotional and tired X X
His time two weeks ago we where ment to be in court but was told by the barista at 9.30pm at night it was cancelled and changed to tomorrow. My head is a mess it's feels like our last supper, my two youngest don't know really what's going on other than daddy can't live with us but my eldest daughter is awear that daddy has downloaded something that is illigal and has over heard today about him going to court tomorrow. Well she has had a cry giving daddy a hug before he went and it has broken me. I can never ever condone what he has done but I love this man so much I want my happy funny man I meet 14 years ago back and I know he wants that to and has been trying so hard to get help and support. Well the barista is still trying to get a suspended scents and I am hoping for that to ......but then all the emotions of the first day ' The Day of the knock ' the angry one min crying the next I am still angry at him for putting us as a family in this situation and why could he not talk to me before it got this bad. He is now talking to me alot more so we are taking the steps to recovery as they say. I am just so up and down today thinking about tomorrow he has already plead guilty so no trial. I'm scared of having to have the chat with my daughter if my husband gets prison time I just don't know how the hell I am going to get it out to her . I am feeling so drained and don't know how the hell I have kept it together for so long. Already hit papers last time in court at his plea hearing so I have had so much back lash from people even my house targeted so now got some help from victim support now I know it is going to hit papers again and I am going to have to deal with that starting again when it has only just stopped . When dose the light start shining at the end of this tunnel
Sorry just so so emotional and tired X X
I just wanted to say i hope tomorrow goes ok. Whatever happens it will be sorted soon and you can start to rebuild your life. Hes done a bad thing but hopefully thats over now and he can carry on getting the help he needs and in the future he will be the happy, funny man you met 14 years ago. I hope that its old news now and the press and local people leave you alone to cone to terms with whatever sentence he recieves.
Vic,
I am with you in spirit tomorrow. You are truly not alone, it’s a painful experience that I know I still have to come but others have been through it and like you I hope there is some light. It’s really positive that your husband has taken some steps towards his recovery and your communicating more.
My heart broke when you mentioned how the whole experience is impacting you and your children, you don’t deserve this.
Will be certainly thinking about you tomorrow and sending you lots of love and strength.
bethlou xxx
I am with you in spirit tomorrow. You are truly not alone, it’s a painful experience that I know I still have to come but others have been through it and like you I hope there is some light. It’s really positive that your husband has taken some steps towards his recovery and your communicating more.
My heart broke when you mentioned how the whole experience is impacting you and your children, you don’t deserve this.
Will be certainly thinking about you tomorrow and sending you lots of love and strength.
bethlou xxx
Good luck today. Not sure that is the appropriate phrase but take care. Small steps, a minute at a time x
So court well heart braking husband has been scentensed to 8 months in prison apparently he will do 4 months of that. My head is all over the place it hurts so so so much. Now I have to come up with a way I have to tell the kids and everyone eles.
The only good thing is that at least there is light at the end of the tunnel just hope the next few months hurry up so my children can live some what of a normal life again
The only good thing is that at least there is light at the end of the tunnel just hope the next few months hurry up so my children can live some what of a normal life again
Just wanted to send you my love. You poor thing - you’ve been through so much. Keep strong. This will end x
Vic87
Thinking about you x
Thinking about you x
So sorry to hear that Vic87
Gather yourself over the next few days and don't put yourself under too much pressure. Let's hope the next few months go quickly for you and hope he's okay too.
Lots of love xx
Gather yourself over the next few days and don't put yourself under too much pressure. Let's hope the next few months go quickly for you and hope he's okay too.
Lots of love xx
Vic87. Thinking about you all for tomorow. I hope it all goes as well as it can for all of you.. .. such a damn avoidable nightmare for all of us ... good luck hun xxxx
Vic87, that’s a huge milestone in this horrible journey. Keep your eyes on the future and not on the past. This will pass, much already has. Keep going!
Jaded
Jaded
Vic87 I'm so sorry to hear what you've had to go through. I'm distraught at my news but can't even imagine to think what you must be going through. I really hope you have people to support you and the SS are there to help.
I don't know about you but all I think about is trying to keep all this quiet as I couldn't bear my children's friends finding out and they get bullied etc.
I hate this whole situation
I don't know about you but all I think about is trying to keep all this quiet as I couldn't bear my children's friends finding out and they get bullied etc.
I hate this whole situation
Rainbow,
i hate this whole situation too. It’s just so complicated and everyone has an opinion. I can completely understand where you are coming from regarding the children.
vic I am saddened to hear your news I honestly don’t know how prison can be the answer it’s therapy these men need, and not shaming further. Sending my love to you at this hard time. Jaded seems to have the right approach you have already come so far. Not much further to go and hopefully it will be old news and you can get on with your lives xx
strength to all of you out there xxx
i hate this whole situation too. It’s just so complicated and everyone has an opinion. I can completely understand where you are coming from regarding the children.
vic I am saddened to hear your news I honestly don’t know how prison can be the answer it’s therapy these men need, and not shaming further. Sending my love to you at this hard time. Jaded seems to have the right approach you have already come so far. Not much further to go and hopefully it will be old news and you can get on with your lives xx
strength to all of you out there xxx
Thank you everyone for your support
My head has been all over the place. I have to inform member of family what has happened and as you can imagine it's not been easy. I had a phone call from him the first night and then sat waiting by the phone all day yesterday waiting but no call I feel so lost.
Let's hope today that cs can help a support us.
The scents was not a shock to me at all after hearing that where we live the probation services are actually going under fast and talk of the company going bankrupt so there is nothing available for them to do with him in the community so only a custodial scents was available it makes me sick.
I told my 10 year old soon to be 11 the truth on where daddy has gone but not in to detail why and it has broken here. Just trying to think of ideas for her to do to keep her busy till she can see him again so we thought of a dairy of everything she is doing while he is not her so when he is home he can read everything they have done.
Let's hope that once he is aloud out he can come home as the judge did state he thought my husband was not threat to the children but was palace on sexul prevention order so I am not sure how it works so let's hope cs will help us be a family again
My head has been all over the place. I have to inform member of family what has happened and as you can imagine it's not been easy. I had a phone call from him the first night and then sat waiting by the phone all day yesterday waiting but no call I feel so lost.
Let's hope today that cs can help a support us.
The scents was not a shock to me at all after hearing that where we live the probation services are actually going under fast and talk of the company going bankrupt so there is nothing available for them to do with him in the community so only a custodial scents was available it makes me sick.
I told my 10 year old soon to be 11 the truth on where daddy has gone but not in to detail why and it has broken here. Just trying to think of ideas for her to do to keep her busy till she can see him again so we thought of a dairy of everything she is doing while he is not her so when he is home he can read everything they have done.
Let's hope that once he is aloud out he can come home as the judge did state he thought my husband was not threat to the children but was palace on sexul prevention order so I am not sure how it works so let's hope cs will help us be a family again
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Well children's services came yesterday she is happy with me she knows I am standing by him and that I am going to always keep the kids safe and she has said that we can work at being a family again. She is also going to give me support with moving to be closer to his family who are all supporting us so I can get back to work and have a better life and even better one when my oh is home. I feel a bit better now plus I have managed to have some phone calls with the oh and now I know he is ok it's making me feel like there is a light now still some hard work to do but we are going to get there. In June he will be home it would have been a year married and our 15 years together and all I can think of is it is only up from here on.
All you lovely people on here have been so very supportive of me in this absolutely devastating time and I want to thank you. You have all kept me going and lifted me up when I have needed it the most you are all angles and give your self a pat on the back and a big hug we will all get through this together X X
All you lovely people on here have been so very supportive of me in this absolutely devastating time and I want to thank you. You have all kept me going and lifted me up when I have needed it the most you are all angles and give your self a pat on the back and a big hug we will all get through this together X X