Change of name and address
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I'm pretty new to this, I posted earlier in the week with the case under investigation against my partner.
we've been taking openly about how best to protect me and my reputation. I've been wondering about him changing his last name and getting a small flat elsewhere in order to distance him from our life together to help with the media impact.
has anyone got any experience with changing names and addresses and is it worth considering?
Thanks in advance xx
we've been taking openly about how best to protect me and my reputation. I've been wondering about him changing his last name and getting a small flat elsewhere in order to distance him from our life together to help with the media impact.
has anyone got any experience with changing names and addresses and is it worth considering?
Thanks in advance xx
Blueshoes,
I think only u 2 can decide wat is best lovely things will die down x
I think only u 2 can decide wat is best lovely things will die down x
Hi.
we looked into the changing of name thing. Ultimately we decided against it for a number of reasons. Firstly they might read out the original name in court anyway and then the papers will print both names.
Secondly I've seen it in the papers where judges have seen the name changing as a way of trying to hide and not own up to what they have done and it's possible they got higher sentenses for it.
Thirdly, we decided he would keep his name, and our daughter will have our last name when she is born. And while it's awful, at least he can stand up there one day and say yes I am this person I know what I did and I am doing everything I can to get better and be a better person for it.
As for getting a small flat, that is entirely up to you guys. But it again may be read out as your address in court unless you make sure as best you can that the new address is where he is living when charged ect. Again we decided so long as he is allowed to he will live at home. We will deal with any fall out from the media at a later date. I don't think it will be all that bad and rhe police will protect us from anything IF it happens. It might not even make the papers yet.
We have said we might move after the court case and everything is over. As a fresh start though and not because we are scared. I don't want to live my life in fear of what comes next. We are going to take everything one day at a time. Someone in our local area just got jail time for a similar but more serious (it seems!) offence. He was jailed this week after being initially arrested December 2019. So we have a long wait on our hands yet!
Ultimately it's your decision. Just don't rush into anything and really really think about it for a while.
we looked into the changing of name thing. Ultimately we decided against it for a number of reasons. Firstly they might read out the original name in court anyway and then the papers will print both names.
Secondly I've seen it in the papers where judges have seen the name changing as a way of trying to hide and not own up to what they have done and it's possible they got higher sentenses for it.
Thirdly, we decided he would keep his name, and our daughter will have our last name when she is born. And while it's awful, at least he can stand up there one day and say yes I am this person I know what I did and I am doing everything I can to get better and be a better person for it.
As for getting a small flat, that is entirely up to you guys. But it again may be read out as your address in court unless you make sure as best you can that the new address is where he is living when charged ect. Again we decided so long as he is allowed to he will live at home. We will deal with any fall out from the media at a later date. I don't think it will be all that bad and rhe police will protect us from anything IF it happens. It might not even make the papers yet.
We have said we might move after the court case and everything is over. As a fresh start though and not because we are scared. I don't want to live my life in fear of what comes next. We are going to take everything one day at a time. Someone in our local area just got jail time for a similar but more serious (it seems!) offence. He was jailed this week after being initially arrested December 2019. So we have a long wait on our hands yet!
Ultimately it's your decision. Just don't rush into anything and really really think about it for a while.
Hi Blueshoes
Our solicitor actually advised my partner to change his name and get an address out of the county we live in, so he has done both.
I do know of someone in court recently and they only read out the new surname and the new address, for us it is worth the gamble.
We feel it is the best thing for my partner.
Wishing you all the best
Mabel x
Our solicitor actually advised my partner to change his name and get an address out of the county we live in, so he has done both.
I do know of someone in court recently and they only read out the new surname and the new address, for us it is worth the gamble.
We feel it is the best thing for my partner.
Wishing you all the best
Mabel x
My sons solicitor has told him not to change his name as the Judges don't like it and there is still a 99% chance it will be read out in court, also regarding address our solicitor has said the address that he commited the crime at will be read out in court, and if he moves that address will more than likely be read out too, so we're in a no win situation really