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I hear ya!
our knock was the end of March, all devices back except his phone and we've heard nothing since. His solicitor says she will chase once a month but not much point doing more than that. I don't know what they're likely to find, my Oh doesn't talk much. Only answers my questions very basic.
I am trying to carry on as normal for my children's sake but our relationship is ruined and we are just functioning. I don't think I can carry on with this for another year. I fee like I am deceiving and friends will not be impressed With me. It saying anything and lying to them

Chelsea 1 hey .. we had the knock 25th may 2021 .. i know what you are going through this my second time in this situation i can tell you its gonna take time and i know the wait is unbearable life just moves along but i feel like im moving in slow motion .. no one knows! its unbearable its not easy but you have people here you can talk to ok xx love susie

Starry hey xx i know its awful our relation ship is over too i gave him a chance and he through it right back at me .. life is on hold .. althougb going through the motions oh doesn't speak much now at first he was "i cant do this witbout you"" bit late fir that now !! Its soo frustrating .. hang in there here if you need a chat xx love Susie

Yes I agree, the waiting is like torture! Exactly 4 months for us so far, and every day seems to feel a little longer than the last x

Hi Ladies,

We're 21 months into all of this, it went to CPS 5 months ago and couting...

The waiting is truly horrendous but it does become more bearable. You will have times where you briefly forget and smile without thinking about all of this, your head and heart don't let you forget for long but enjoy the moments that make you smile and try to live in the moment as much as you can.

Lots of love and hugs xx

Thank you ladies for your replies.
I totally get all of it, I'm functioning but I'm not living. I have been out with a few girlfriends for dinner etc..... and have enjoyed myself however I walk back through my front door and the whole thing hits me like a slap in the face.
Communication is key but my OH doesn't seem bothered to talk and be open so I have given up asking. Some days I literally can't stand him being here but we have 2 children who know no different.
I feel my life is all lies. The lies he ha been telling me bu hiding a porn addiction and the lies I am telling people. I will be never be trusted my friends again and that is it me. I am adamant that he will not bring me and my children down with him. I will support him but this is his mess not mine!!

This is my first time post knock on the door was Thursday 15 July 2021, how long roughly do you want to find out, still very recent don't know how to function when the kids are not around, can't sleep can't eat help.....

Hey everyone,

we're about 9 months down the road, with no kids...

I can tell you now I've been through, as you will too, every emotion under the sun. ATM I seem to be functioning on disgust and anger... Even though the past few months I haven't been as angry or disgusted as I am now ...Remember it's normal to feel emotions... Just remember to take care of you when you're feeling them.



But for most of us it might not just because of the investigation, it' might be a multitude of things including trouble with drinking, depression and communication...

Myself and my husband have been through the mill in our relationship and I think we're just starting to rebuíd the trust.. is it too late ?

I don't know, I'm taking things day by day and I'm taking care of me first, for too long do we take care of others... I still support my husband but he's starting to stand on his own two feet which is half the battle. From having my heart broken thousand of times by him to learning to allow myself to forgive but not forget and not hold his past actions as a weapon due to the improvements he's been making now... Has been so difficult... But I'm trying to be a better person because he is too.

If the lines of communication aren't there and they're not willing to work with someone to help pry them open and be a better person then is it worth your time and investment?

Youll get through this... No matter how many times life knocks you back , you gotta keep on getting up because that's how winning is done.