Getting a partner home
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Hello,
I wonder if anyone has managed to get their partner home after arrest and SS have got involved, could you tell me the rough timeline?
currently my partner is bailed pending investigation for communicating with a police decoy. They took devices when they arrested at end of March 2021 and we're waiting for them to be checked. SS won't make any plans for the future until the devices have been checked, and they're hinting that he won't be allowed to return home to me and our 9 week old baby until after court/sentencing which seems excessive! Especially as he's admitted guilt for the communication offence and did so immediately, so isn't hiding anything further.
if anyone can shed any light on timelines so I have a bit more of an idea that would be great
thanks x
I wonder if anyone has managed to get their partner home after arrest and SS have got involved, could you tell me the rough timeline?
currently my partner is bailed pending investigation for communicating with a police decoy. They took devices when they arrested at end of March 2021 and we're waiting for them to be checked. SS won't make any plans for the future until the devices have been checked, and they're hinting that he won't be allowed to return home to me and our 9 week old baby until after court/sentencing which seems excessive! Especially as he's admitted guilt for the communication offence and did so immediately, so isn't hiding anything further.
if anyone can shed any light on timelines so I have a bit more of an idea that would be great
thanks x
Hi there,
I think some partners/husbands are allowed to return home but mine wasn't until after sentencing (he came home 3 months later and even then it was quite a fight with SS to assess us which they were very reluctant to do even though he has been deemed very low risk and it was a relatively small number of images) Have you got a supportive SW?
xx
I think some partners/husbands are allowed to return home but mine wasn't until after sentencing (he came home 3 months later and even then it was quite a fight with SS to assess us which they were very reluctant to do even though he has been deemed very low risk and it was a relatively small number of images) Have you got a supportive SW?
xx
My oh is not allowed to stay at my house or at any house with an under 18. Knock beginning of March 21 and for communication he has told me was police decoy but not been told that by police. Social services dont want to get involved atmo as I have said will supervise any contact and his not staying at house. From reading over posts depending on charges etc he may not be allowed home after for quite some time depending on conditions and ss involvement after sentencing
@BelleBee - I remember seeing your story on another thread. I've shared a safety plan for if my partner was home with SS and they did agree that it's very thorough and comprehensive. But we're still in a ten week assessment of my protective capacity so I'm just waiting on the results of that in September.
@Heartbroken - that's the bail conditions of my partner, so he was at home with me right up until I gave birth and now he lives a few streets away. He has regular contact with our baby but just got to hope that he will be allowed home soon/one day.
@Heartbroken - that's the bail conditions of my partner, so he was at home with me right up until I gave birth and now he lives a few streets away. He has regular contact with our baby but just got to hope that he will be allowed home soon/one day.
Hello
Any advice for templates for safety plans re under 18 siblings, please.
Haven't been contacted yet by ss but want to be proactive
Thank you x
Any advice for templates for safety plans re under 18 siblings, please.
Haven't been contacted yet by ss but want to be proactive
Thank you x
Hi WeeWitch,
the Parents Protect website has a template that might help?
tbh I did mine on a Word document and laid it out by section eg. Sleeping arrangements, personal care, school/nursery, what happens in an emergency.etc
and then under each I put bullet points to cover everything in place. Eg. If you couldn't be home to supervise between your son and your other child, would a family member step in? Or would your child go to someone else to be cared for until you could take over?
I think if you can show that you're thinking long term rather than just right now it should help xx
the Parents Protect website has a template that might help?
tbh I did mine on a Word document and laid it out by section eg. Sleeping arrangements, personal care, school/nursery, what happens in an emergency.etc
and then under each I put bullet points to cover everything in place. Eg. If you couldn't be home to supervise between your son and your other child, would a family member step in? Or would your child go to someone else to be cared for until you could take over?
I think if you can show that you're thinking long term rather than just right now it should help xx
Hi,
My husband was sentenced ( suspended sentence) and he isnt allowed to be at home with us, but his probation officer said she thinks he could in the future so I'm holding out hope x
My husband was sentenced ( suspended sentence) and he isnt allowed to be at home with us, but his probation officer said she thinks he could in the future so I'm holding out hope x
Thank you x
My husband is allowed unsupervised access. My children are 15 and 16. If I ask ss about him coming back home, will they change the access?
Hi
my husbands shpo said he is not allowed any unsupervised access with children under 16 without social services permission.
The day after his conviction for cat c iioc we contacted social services and they came and done an assessment and granted him unsupervised access to our daughter (13 years old) after we proved we had a safety plan and they were happy. They spoke to her without us present and he was allowed home with no supervision conditions within 2 weeks of his final court date.
I found being open and honest with them really helped and felt they were very supportive.
good luck
my husbands shpo said he is not allowed any unsupervised access with children under 16 without social services permission.
The day after his conviction for cat c iioc we contacted social services and they came and done an assessment and granted him unsupervised access to our daughter (13 years old) after we proved we had a safety plan and they were happy. They spoke to her without us present and he was allowed home with no supervision conditions within 2 weeks of his final court date.
I found being open and honest with them really helped and felt they were very supportive.
good luck
Advice on protection plan would be great I want to give this to them to put something in place so they know