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Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Fri July 23, 2021 6:28pmReport post

Hiya team.

So was wondering what is life like after all this is over. Maybe through sentencing, or being on Sor or shpo for long time.

Myself is waiting on Hubby's case. Nearly two months in and nothing , booked a small holiday in August.

Looking through forums and cases and joining in the modules has been a eye opener.

Stand together xx

Edited Fri July 23, 2021 7:51pm

Becky1234

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March 2021

208 posts

Posted Fri July 23, 2021 9:39pmReport post

Chelsea

I am not sure what life is like after.. but what I will say is this, life is what you make it, it will be hard but if determination is there then you can make it work . As for your holiday please go unfortunately this can take anything from 3 months - 2 years its not a quick process, I am unsure where you are but I am on the South Coast and ours has been 18 months Crown a week today.

Some days it's a struggle to even look outside but then some days you don't think about it, you will experience highs & lows

Thinking of you x

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Fri July 23, 2021 9:49pmReport post

Hiya Becky.

Thank you for the reply.

Yes we are also on the south coast and the police told Hubby anytime after 3 months.

God knows what you are going through after 18 months. Hope everything goes well for you.

Yes definitely going on the holiday and hopefully we can have a good time and see what happens when we get back.

Thank you. Thinking of you x

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Fri July 23, 2021 10:19pmReport post

Hiya Lost.

So glad you can now move on with your lives and try and rebuild your lives.

Yes I know through seeing posts on here it won't be easy. I know he will loss his job and his friends but he isn't close to any.

Like yourself we are going to relocate away from the area. Don't know thou if he will have to go to the original area etc thou. That's down this path thou.

Fingers crossed you rebuild your life and see the sunshine xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 9:47pmReport post

Hiya Lee.

Thank you for that. Glad you told me about appearing in the place of arrest. Will the new residence be brought up do you know ?

Yes we know it's gonna be a long journey. Just wondering why he did it etc. He is full of remorse and getting help.

One day at a time. Thank you xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 11:52pmReport post

Thank you Lee.

I did read somewhere on here and online that the address where the offence was carried out is the only one they use and if you speak to your soliceter that you have moved and showed that you are trying to be a better person and learning from your offenses then the new address shouldn't be used.

Xx

Luxy

Member since
April 2020

55 posts

Posted Sun July 25, 2021 8:29pmReport post

Hi Lee 1969 is right, our address where offence was committed, and new address were both read out, you just can't tell, it just up to whoever on the day.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Mon July 26, 2021 7:48amReport post

Thank you everybody.

Well we have made decision to take the holiday for a week.

As for addresses will will have to take it on the day and see what happens.

Much love xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat August 21, 2021 3:57pmReport post

Hiya all.

Yes well nearly at the end of our holidays. Been like the couple of old. But it rears its ugly head.

Hubby has admitted to me he has a porn addiction( if that's what you call it).

Searched stuff but didn't download it. Searched animal stuff but only watched it.

Got sent the young stuff Vai messenger and WhatsApp groups. No Kik stuff.

Just at my wit's end when we get back and into work and thinking what he's up too.

Trust has gone.

Only nearly 3 months in. I am looking to get this finished with and try and move on.

Sorry for rambling. Xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat August 21, 2021 5:39pmReport post

Hiya Lee.

Is that a android app.

Xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat August 21, 2021 6:20pmReport post

Thank you Lee.

Much appreciated.

Xx