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SadAndWorried

Member since
October 2019

154 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 2:24pmReport post

Hi ladies,

Hope you're all doing okay? As best you can during all of this anyway!!

I'm just curious how many of you are from my area and how long your husband's/partners/family/friends case is taking or took? What the case charges were/are and sentencing outcome?

We're currently 22months in and has been with CPS for months.

Thank you ...xxxx

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

362 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 3:57pmReport post

There are 14 different geographical areas that the CPS is divided up into (you can look at these on their website) If you are in Hampshire the CPS has grouped this as Wessex and also includes Dorset, Wiltshire and Isle of Wight.

I just thought I would reply with this information so that if others are from these areas they can reply to you. Each of the 14 CPS areas will have different timescales and that is one of the reasons why some people have much longer waiting times in this process than others.

We are not in this area, but I hope you receive some responses from others soon.



I hope you do not have to wait much longer before hearing back from the CPS.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 9:53pmReport post

Hello Sadandworried.

We are based in West Sussex. 2 months in. And nothing yet.

Xx

Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 11:22pmReport post

Sad & worried

Hampshire 18 months Crown on fri .. it takes so long .. hoping your OK?

X

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 11:48pmReport post

Good luck Becky on Friday.

Virtual ((hugs)) xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sat July 24, 2021 11:49pmReport post

How can people possibly function for over 2 years and nothing happens.

Not good for wellbeing or mental health.

Xx

Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Sun July 25, 2021 7:28amReport post

Chelsea 1

Thank you, trust me its been a struggle to function, mental health struggles , when it first happened I honestly felt like I wasn't going to get through it, I did and so is my son. Battle isn't over and the fight carries on. What I will say is in all this remember you, I didn't but now I do.

X

Notsurewheretogo

Member since
December 2019

89 posts

Posted Mon July 26, 2021 9:23amReport post

We are in West Sussex too it's taken since December 2019

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Mon July 26, 2021 11:40amReport post

Heya, were from the Southeast Hampshire type way and we're 9 months in! If you're 22 months in and it's still nothing Ive lost all fricking hope... That's a long long time... Ludicrously ridiculous...

Mindful

Member since
January 2021

50 posts

Posted Mon July 26, 2021 3:24pmReport post

We are in Greater Manchester and are 14 months in and 7 months waiting for CPS.

Notsurewheretogo

Member since
December 2019

89 posts

Posted Mon July 26, 2021 7:14pmReport post

Lee1969 I can't believe we have very similar cases and we live in the same area.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Mon July 26, 2021 7:49pmReport post

Cannot believe the police said to Hubby , thank you for the pastcode on the phone should speed up the process.

Reading on here wow 22 months , 14 months plus for other. Will do my head in.

((Hugs)) to everybody xx

Cookie

Member since
November 2020

28 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 9:30pmReport post

Wow 22 months I'm 9 months in Wiltshire and still nothing I'm loosing the will you live not knowing

Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 10:00pmReport post

Greater Manchester here, and we're 4 months in and devices have been checked. Waiting in case to go to CPS.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 11:11pmReport post

Wow 4 months that's a quick turnaround.

Xx

Emmie lou

Member since
January 2021

109 posts

Posted Thu July 29, 2021 6:05amReport post

We are north west and we where lucky if that's the word as afterbeing told it could take up to 2 years where where 10 months from the knock to crown court

Dottie

Member since
June 2019

236 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 10:17pmReport post

Surrey / West Sussex border 22 months from the knock to sentencing.

Mabel

Member since
June 2019

208 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 10:58pmReport post

Hi

We are in Essex, 3 years 2 months....not.a.word.from anyone, tho my partner was caught in a different town, a long way from where we live, I think that is the reason.



mabel xx

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 11:12pmReport post

Mabel



Holy shit. We are Essex too. We are only 2.5 months in.



Have you chased it up? Surely they can't leave you hanging for that long?!

SadAndWorried

Member since
October 2019

154 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 11:13pmReport post

I really appreciate all of your replies ladies. The time this takes from start to finish is shocking. I hope the courts take this into consideration more bail conditions or no bail conditions. The length of time they wait should show these judges these men can live safely in the community. Having someone RUI for years, no aggravating factors happening in that time to then get custodial makes little sense really in terms of tax payers money and prison space. Thankfully right now my frame of mind is doing okay but I'm sure soon I'll have a wobble. I hope you're all doing okay! Huffff and argh to all of this waiting around aye!!!

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sun August 1, 2021 12:48pmReport post

Hiya.

Blimey some of these cases are taking way to long and will have damaging affects on mental health etc.

God I am only 2 months in with hubby and it's doing my head in.

Stay strong xx

Mabel

Member since
June 2019

208 posts

Posted Sun August 1, 2021 1:23pmReport post

Hi ScaredLamb

Well my partner has had a solicitor since he was Rui, and his advice is to just leave it...don't go to the police for updates, it is ridiculous tho, I just hope they take this time into consideration when it does eventually go to court.
My partner was caught by a vigilante group, not the police so maybe that's a factor as well.

Wishing you all the best

mabel xx

Concerned

Member since
November 2020

62 posts

Posted Mon August 2, 2021 8:39pmReport post

We are Essex aswell. Almost 10 months in now. Feels like long enough! No idea when we will be nearing the end.

Feel for everyone who has been living this for years x

Mindful

Member since
January 2021

50 posts

Posted Mon August 2, 2021 11:22pmReport post

Hi Sad and Worried,

I totally get their is a majority who do nothing aggravating whilst RUI.

However a small minority like my ex love to continue with many aggravating behaviours whilst RUI.

I can't specify too much but let's just say he deserves a Grammy award.

Length of time on these are awful can't believe I'm reading 3 n half years that's the longest one I've seen yet.

Blueshoes

Member since
July 2021

24 posts

Posted Tue August 3, 2021 4:16pmReport post

Is anyone in the West Midlands area? I'd be interested to hear experience of timescales from those in the area... thanks in advance :)

sadmum

Member since
January 2021

106 posts

Posted Tue August 3, 2021 7:39pmReport post

We are in Lancashire, we are coming up to 8 months in, if MABEL reads this I just wanted to ask you about a name change, you said in a previous post that your husband has changed his name, I am going to get my son to change his name now before he is charged as I have just read of someone on the news that has changed their name and only that name has been read out in court so we are going to take the chance, did you husband change it by deed poll and has he changed all his bank, driving licence etc to new name, thanks

Sid

Member since
March 2021

52 posts

Posted Tue August 3, 2021 8:00pmReport post

Hi I just wanted to jump in and say we are in Essex as well. I got hubby to phone up polit last week (husband was arrested in March) as it is just doing my head in not knowing what is going on! They said they had finished with the laptop. It wasn't needed to be sent off and forensics were done in house.(this is where all the evidence is according to husband) However they weren't satisfied with the phone and that has been sent off externally. This is where the problem is apparently, due to him being low on the offending (I have to laugh) it just get shoved to the bottom of the pile and more frustratingly he is adamant that there is nothing on it (I have no reason to not believe him)

it is so frustrating!!!

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu August 5, 2021 11:44amReport post

Hiya team.

2 1/2 months in here and nothing.

4 devices checked nothing on them.

2 devices sent away for forensics.

Hubby admitted it on his phone but nothing else.

He rang the soliceters and same story , sorry sir it's gonna be a while. Load of cases and covid backlog.

Xx

Mw

Member since
March 2021

150 posts

Posted Thu August 5, 2021 12:56pmReport post

We are in North West and are 5 months in. All in house forensics came back clear, 2 phones taken away and cleared. 4 weeks ago police file went to CPS so now just waiting to learn our fate. PO said CPS should respond within 28 days, is that right?

Cher

Member since
March 2019

103 posts

Posted Thu August 5, 2021 1:41pmReport post

With 850 men being arrested every month its going to be a long wait I'm afraid, the police are overwhelmed with trying to deal with this crime. I'm in Hampshire and it took 16 months, but that was back in 2018, it seems to take longer now.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Fri August 6, 2021 4:27pmReport post

Hiya.

Blimey 850 men a month.

Omg xx

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Fri August 13, 2021 2:00pmReport post

Heya everyone,

I've seen a case in Hampshire/ Surrey area take 2.5 from start to sentencing at crown court for reference ... Look at you local area IIOC cases ...

Thanks

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Fri August 13, 2021 5:10pmReport post

Hi.

Hi blackhound is that 2.5 months or years

Xx

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Fri August 13, 2021 6:55pmReport post

Chelsea 1 that's years I'm afraid :(

It does seem to be taking a lot longer down south compared to uo north but there might be a correlation between sentencing up north... I would assume if there are lesser cases, the punishment might be harsher to demonstrate and also because there's less strain on the system. They don't need to get more cases completed as it were....