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Becky1234

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March 2021

208 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 12:59pmReport post

So today I am trying to be proactive, I went to the shops early as bumping into people is a no,no as I was picking up the last of the prison bag bits for my son.

While I was in the shop a lady said you are doing what I'm doing, I smiled gently and said it does look that way. Obviously I don't know this lady she looked as lost as I am, I said how are you ? Her reply not so good if I'm honest, me neither I replied. I said what are you doing after your shopping trip she said going home to a lonely house, my reply would you like to have a coffee with me, her reply you don't have to do that I said I know but I want to.

So me & the lady met for coffee, we got chatting. I am praying she has reached out on here, I won't put any personal information on here. So what I take away from today is this and a bit of self reflection on my part!

When your feeling all alone there's someone round the corner feeling exactly the same .. Be kind, I didn't ever expect this to happen but it has and I have somewhat dealt with it ok, I have good days and bad days.

I have spoken to some amazing people, people who don't know me but was willing to give advice / support.

One amazing lady who was going through such a sad time has shown me that good things do happen (Lee) thank you isn't enough, I do appreciate everything .. you was at the end of the phone when I needed you and I will be forever grateful for your help.

So as I am count down for the next 48 hrs until my first born is sentenced what a journey its been. My fight isn't over in one sense its just begun as this is just a small part of a new life, new beginnings..

Take care of you and your family's life is a gift and is for living even through all of this, when I look back I have put my life on pause and wished every day it was just a bad dream, unfortunately it's real, so although I've crumbled alot I have found strength within god knows how lol.

So those of you beginning this journey there is hope, its just a long road .. for those nearing the end well done you got this far.

Xx

Worrieddaugther

Member since
June 2021

32 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 2:28pmReport post

Becky

That's beautiful will be thinking of you and your son on Friday virtual hugs xx

Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 2:51pmReport post

Worried daughter

Thank you I recieved the hug .. how are you doing ? Xx

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Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Wed July 28, 2021 4:45pmReport post

Becky,



That is so lovely, I hope they u two can keep in touch and u can both support each other in ur hour of need but we are all here for u x

Maij

Member since
December 2020

287 posts

Posted Thu July 29, 2021 1:11amReport post

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Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Thu July 29, 2021 9:03amReport post

Dawn 14

Thank you, it was a very weird day although I gave the lady my number when I left, I didn't think to ask for hers, I really hope she reaches out somewhere. Xx

Lee

Absolutely, kindness costs nothing.. you my lovely have bundles xx

Maij

Although yesterday was very weird, It has just suddenly dawned on me that things happen for a reason.. I pray that the lady finds strength, I havnt stopped thinking of her .. thank you for your kind words.. I really hope so too but I am thinking the worse anything other than that will be a bonus

I hope everyone is doing OK

Xx

Worrieddaugther

Member since
June 2021

32 posts

Posted Fri July 30, 2021 11:31amReport post

Thinking of you and your son today Becky xxx

Dawn14

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June 2021

472 posts

Posted Fri July 30, 2021 12:02pmReport post

Hope things go as ok as they today for u Becky xx

WeeWitch

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June 2021

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Posted Fri July 30, 2021 1:05pmReport post

Thinking hard of you today, Becky xxx

Maij

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December 2020

287 posts

Posted Fri July 30, 2021 1:11pmReport post

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Becky1234

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March 2021

208 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 6:03amReport post

Thank you everyone for thinking of us, yesterday was a very weird day if I am honest. I Obviously never want to see my son crumble like that again.

It's so horrible, maij you are so right, my son didn't ever search he was speaking to someone on kik, this said person sent a link with a joblot of iioc !! Son opened and it downloaded fgs. So after 18 months of pure up & downs .. heartache yesterday concluded that my son is a broken man, but now he can rebuild.

We got the best possible outcome today.

He recieved a 3 year community service order, 100 hrs of unpaid work, 5 years sor, 5 years shpo.

Sending love and hope to you all xx

Alison20

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March 2021

362 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 12:58pmReport post

Hi Becky1234

I am so pleased that your son received the best possible outcome at court yesterday, I was thinking of your both.

You are such an inspiration and help to many on this forum.

Sending you a virtual hug x

Anne20

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March 2021

141 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 2:03pmReport post

Becky

So pleased the court part is over and you had a good outcome.

Take care of you

Virtual hugs

Anne

Maij

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December 2020

287 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 7:33pmReport post

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Becky1234

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March 2021

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Posted Sat July 31, 2021 8:36pmReport post

Anne 20

Aww thank you so much, I'm still in shock I think haha.

Maij

Aww bless you, thank you, we have got through the worst part and yes now we can rebuild.

My son will probably go to uni now so I am pleased with his decision. He will leave his employment but that is his choice as he is able to keep his job aswell. A shpo is a sexual harm prevention order basically this means his Internet activity is reduced I.e no undeletable apps etc. Which is good and will reduce risk of reoffending but not for 1 minute do I believe he would anyway.

I hope you are both well .. sending love xx

Maij

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December 2020

287 posts

Posted Sat July 31, 2021 8:49pmReport post

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Becky1234

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March 2021

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Posted Sat July 31, 2021 8:57pmReport post

Maij

The 3 year community order is for rehabilitation so he will do it all together 3 courses lasting a year each then 33.5 hrs community service per year but this can all be reduced after 15 months, depending on probation etc . Xx

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