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i wanted to come here and ask for some support it's been 9 months since the knock I know no more than I did on that day, the police still have everything I've had no contact from them whatsoever is this normal? I don't know what's happening I don't know where my relationship with my husband is going, we are currently seperated he's at his mums. His mum has stopped talking to Me his daughter my step daughter who I treated as my own has blocked and deleted me on any social media, makes me feel I'm in the wrong. I have no one I can talk about what's happened too my best friend and sister who know have written him off guilty and I'm better off without him. I have a 18 year old son who's off to uni in September, I feel my world is constantly falling apart I'm so lonely and isolated no one understands and I feel no one wants to be around d me, where can I get help from. Do I call the police and ask what's happening? Do I leave it and wait it out how do you keep going and move forward without knowing
thank you for taking time to read xx
i wanted to come here and ask for some support it's been 9 months since the knock I know no more than I did on that day, the police still have everything I've had no contact from them whatsoever is this normal? I don't know what's happening I don't know where my relationship with my husband is going, we are currently seperated he's at his mums. His mum has stopped talking to Me his daughter my step daughter who I treated as my own has blocked and deleted me on any social media, makes me feel I'm in the wrong. I have no one I can talk about what's happened too my best friend and sister who know have written him off guilty and I'm better off without him. I have a 18 year old son who's off to uni in September, I feel my world is constantly falling apart I'm so lonely and isolated no one understands and I feel no one wants to be around d me, where can I get help from. Do I call the police and ask what's happening? Do I leave it and wait it out how do you keep going and move forward without knowing
thank you for taking time to read xx
Cookie,
I'm so sorry u have had to join us in this situation, it took the police just under 2 years before they got in contact to recall my husband in for his 2nd interview, talking on here u r not alone and people no wat u r going through and will help and support u xxxx I am also on mums net if u need to private message, as u can't do that on here. I suggest u ring the helpline and they can help u too xx
I'm so sorry u have had to join us in this situation, it took the police just under 2 years before they got in contact to recall my husband in for his 2nd interview, talking on here u r not alone and people no wat u r going through and will help and support u xxxx I am also on mums net if u need to private message, as u can't do that on here. I suggest u ring the helpline and they can help u too xx
Cookie
I'm sorry you find yourself here, it is a long road and police don't hurry themselves.
Ohh bless you, its hard isn't it, do you still have contact with your husband? Has he opened up to you ? . Maybe if he hasn't, you could ask him to speak to you about it.
Sending a virtual hug your way x
I'm sorry you find yourself here, it is a long road and police don't hurry themselves.
Ohh bless you, its hard isn't it, do you still have contact with your husband? Has he opened up to you ? . Maybe if he hasn't, you could ask him to speak to you about it.
Sending a virtual hug your way x
Thank you for the messages
its a very long lonely road to walk isn't it. I speak to my husband who says he didn't do it, according to him he's clicked a link and that must be where came from, I want to believe him but then I'm very wary and think why would all this plain clothes police be at my house for a link clicked by accident... He says he watched porn but never children, the person I know him as wouldn't as it's so far out his character, however he's kind of carrying on like normal yet I feel absolutely broken. I want to believe him but I still have a part of me that says but what if. without any police evidence I just don't know .
its a very long lonely road to walk isn't it. I speak to my husband who says he didn't do it, according to him he's clicked a link and that must be where came from, I want to believe him but then I'm very wary and think why would all this plain clothes police be at my house for a link clicked by accident... He says he watched porn but never children, the person I know him as wouldn't as it's so far out his character, however he's kind of carrying on like normal yet I feel absolutely broken. I want to believe him but I still have a part of me that says but what if. without any police evidence I just don't know .
Cookie
Unfortunately yes it is.. you said your husband said it was through a link which is a strong possibility.. my son was sent a link through an app called Kik this is how it downloaded onto his phone, as he clicked on it, although my son did watch porn, he viewed it 3 times after but for curiosity I believe. 7 plain clothes officers turned up at my house 3 at front door 2 at back door and 2 in a plain car at 5.12 am.. it was absolutely horrendous although only 3 entered.
We are at crown court tomorrow.. he has pleaded guilty because as soon as its on your phone you are guilty.
I'm sorry you seemed to have been washed away from his family while this isn't your fault. Be kind to yourself...keep reaching out we are all on the same journey.
Sending you a virtual hug x
Unfortunately yes it is.. you said your husband said it was through a link which is a strong possibility.. my son was sent a link through an app called Kik this is how it downloaded onto his phone, as he clicked on it, although my son did watch porn, he viewed it 3 times after but for curiosity I believe. 7 plain clothes officers turned up at my house 3 at front door 2 at back door and 2 in a plain car at 5.12 am.. it was absolutely horrendous although only 3 entered.
We are at crown court tomorrow.. he has pleaded guilty because as soon as its on your phone you are guilty.
I'm sorry you seemed to have been washed away from his family while this isn't your fault. Be kind to yourself...keep reaching out we are all on the same journey.
Sending you a virtual hug x
@Becky1234 thank you, that sounds so similar to our story, the link and not watching it, he was such a switched on person with IT that's what I don't understand he would tell me often about online safety.
I was at work( I work in a school) and we have a Ring doorbell so popped up on my phone someone at your door, I looked at the app to see 6 plain clothes people gathering my door.... I had no idea why so many ppl there, so called husband no answer just voicemail kept looking at the door camera still ppl walking about, try husband again voicemail so I called his work. They told me he's been taken by police!!! My stomach dropped what the hell was happening, went to my boss said I need to go home, I live 5 mins from work so got back neighbours are outside, what's going on hun it's the police... I said I don't know. Got inside because they wouldn't tell me where my husband was only 2 females came in to start with and broke my world apart, then the others came in and searched my house taking computer out family hard drive with family memories on, all whilst neighbours are outside watching. He's not been back to live since 5th November it's heartbreaking and such a struggle how to keep on pretending to be normal, beginning of December I had a break down signed off work, slowly fighting back but now as my Son is about to go uni I feel lonely like everyone leaves me.
sorry I have bambled on x
I was at work( I work in a school) and we have a Ring doorbell so popped up on my phone someone at your door, I looked at the app to see 6 plain clothes people gathering my door.... I had no idea why so many ppl there, so called husband no answer just voicemail kept looking at the door camera still ppl walking about, try husband again voicemail so I called his work. They told me he's been taken by police!!! My stomach dropped what the hell was happening, went to my boss said I need to go home, I live 5 mins from work so got back neighbours are outside, what's going on hun it's the police... I said I don't know. Got inside because they wouldn't tell me where my husband was only 2 females came in to start with and broke my world apart, then the others came in and searched my house taking computer out family hard drive with family memories on, all whilst neighbours are outside watching. He's not been back to live since 5th November it's heartbreaking and such a struggle how to keep on pretending to be normal, beginning of December I had a break down signed off work, slowly fighting back but now as my Son is about to go uni I feel lonely like everyone leaves me.
sorry I have bambled on x