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man having a bad Sunday. Our knock came at the end of March and my husband is rui. He is at home living with and the 3 children as he tried after his arrest to commit suicide twice.
the last 4 months have been the hardest of my life. I have allowed him to stay as I Hagar no one else to help with child care duties and I am desperate to keep my children's life as normal as possible for as long as possible. However, I am suffering. We were such a sociable normal happy family nd now that has all Beene taken away overnight. I told him so this afternoon. I have numerous invites to weddings and BBQs where ordinarily I would be jumping at the chance, people are asking if I am ok because I am holding back with my replies. I told my husband that he has ruined my life and the children's but if he thinks he is bringing me down with him he can think again. He looks so lost and I hate what this porn addiction has done to him but it is it just me and him that need to navigate through this we have 2 children and I have to do what's right for them. I felt terrible as he looked really shocked but at the same time I don't see why I should be biting my tongue. I am not the one that has landed us in this mess. Please tell me someone feels the same, really hard done by and cross!
man having a bad Sunday. Our knock came at the end of March and my husband is rui. He is at home living with and the 3 children as he tried after his arrest to commit suicide twice.
the last 4 months have been the hardest of my life. I have allowed him to stay as I Hagar no one else to help with child care duties and I am desperate to keep my children's life as normal as possible for as long as possible. However, I am suffering. We were such a sociable normal happy family nd now that has all Beene taken away overnight. I told him so this afternoon. I have numerous invites to weddings and BBQs where ordinarily I would be jumping at the chance, people are asking if I am ok because I am holding back with my replies. I told my husband that he has ruined my life and the children's but if he thinks he is bringing me down with him he can think again. He looks so lost and I hate what this porn addiction has done to him but it is it just me and him that need to navigate through this we have 2 children and I have to do what's right for them. I felt terrible as he looked really shocked but at the same time I don't see why I should be biting my tongue. I am not the one that has landed us in this mess. Please tell me someone feels the same, really hard done by and cross!
You're definitely not alone. I feel as though I'm caught up in a drama that's not of my making. Your experience sounds really tough, I hope it gets easier
Thank you Bess
Hey .. your not alone 2nd time around for us .. 2nd knock 25 may .. hes threatened susicide.. he is getting help from nhs ans lucy faithfull ...im in limbo feel like im grieving a weight on my shoulders a dark cloud following me where ever i go he is bailed to this house but we are over i cant take it again it was so hard to trust him and hes thrown it all back in my face .. we are in Scotland its a struggle every day hes told me now after 16 years together martried for 5 on aug 12th .. that he was abused by a famliy member he weote me a 8 page lettwr the week of the knock im in shock about all he wrote as i had no clue .. he has been through so much with me as i too was abused ..
I just wish he had trusted me to talk to me ibe failed as a wife ..
Sorry wrote a book ..
You are not alone x
Susie
I just wish he had trusted me to talk to me ibe failed as a wife ..
Sorry wrote a book ..
You are not alone x
Susie
Starry,
We 3 years since the knock we have had the court but we are now struggling with ss being cpp and I still lose it at my hubby because it's all his fault, and to be fair he takes wat I throw at him even though he doesn't always deserve it but we/I wouldn't be struggling if it wasn't for wat he did, so don't feel bad for telling him how u feel.
Susie65, u r no a bad wife u obviously opened up to him about ur past he should of done the same, so DON'T U DARE say u r a bad wife u can't help if he doesn't tell u, like the rest of us u have done the best any of us can do in this situation xxxx
Sending love & hugs to u both xxxxx
We 3 years since the knock we have had the court but we are now struggling with ss being cpp and I still lose it at my hubby because it's all his fault, and to be fair he takes wat I throw at him even though he doesn't always deserve it but we/I wouldn't be struggling if it wasn't for wat he did, so don't feel bad for telling him how u feel.
Susie65, u r no a bad wife u obviously opened up to him about ur past he should of done the same, so DON'T U DARE say u r a bad wife u can't help if he doesn't tell u, like the rest of us u have done the best any of us can do in this situation xxxx
Sending love & hugs to u both xxxxx
Hi Starry,
I feel exactly the same. Before 'the knock' I was the most placid, easy going person with so much patience..... This whole experienced has changed me as s person. I have very little tolerance for anything now (especially my husband). It upsets me so much that through no fault of my own I am an angry, bitter and utterly miserable person. I am still with my husband and I try so hard to 'carry on as normal' but until he knows if he is being charged it is a constant ache in my heart.
I feel exactly the same. Before 'the knock' I was the most placid, easy going person with so much patience..... This whole experienced has changed me as s person. I have very little tolerance for anything now (especially my husband). It upsets me so much that through no fault of my own I am an angry, bitter and utterly miserable person. I am still with my husband and I try so hard to 'carry on as normal' but until he knows if he is being charged it is a constant ache in my heart.
Dawn 14
Thankyou xx
Thankyou xx
Thank you all