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It's been a long, exhausting 15 months since the knock. Today he was charged.

He was charged with exactly what he disclosed. 3 photos (class c) split into 6 charges (making and distribution).

I'm dreading the next few weeks. The courts, the media attention. There are so many thoughts whizzing through my head. One thing I can not move on from is wondering why our justice system is still failing people? Why can the focus not be on rehabilitation? There must be an alternative for this type of offence. I fear that with it being such a taboo subject that nothing will change and families, like mine, will be punished for the consequences of addiction, depression or all the other causes of the offending. Why should I be worried about losing friends because the local paper and social media army vilify these men with no justification? Yes, they have done wrong, but my children haven't, I haven't. I stand to lose my vital child maintenance payments if he loses his job due to media coverage. My children will go without as a result. Why does no one recognise the wider impact?

I apologise for the rant. I feel very selfish. I have put everything into being supportive and I will continue but tonight I feel exhausted and teary.

Much love to you all.

Xxx

Yes. I couldn't understand the separation of all pictures into different charges.

I was told by the police that they expected to find more when they took all our devices. The whole thing has been sensationalised by other services and I am sad to say that I believed them.

I think I'm mostly upset that I doubted him. Never to his face but I thought it and constantly questioned his truth.

I've learnt so much in the past year. The most important lesson is to trust my judgements of those close to me.

I hope you are right about the media. He's not in a position of trust. He enjoys his job and it keeps him emotionally well.

X

Hi,

I remember being told by the police that a caution was a possibility. I think the fact that he shared them in a group chat sealed his fate. We're northern England.

All I can hope is that the process is fair from here. Struggling to have faith in the system when I feel so let down by it currently.

X

Lee,

It's funny you should say that as I was told he had taken pictures of my eldest - he hadn't. This was used as a reason to hold an icpc. We didn't get onto a cpp but the police did their best to convince everyone before that they were at significant risk then failed to turn to the icpc.

X

Rant away.

I've contacted victim support in the past few weeks and they are helping me formulate a letter to the OIC. Not a complaint, more of a this is the wider impact your words and actions have on non offending partners. It's more of a theraputic exercise for me I think, I won't get any response and nothing will change as a result.

I'll submit it when sentencing is complete.