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Does anyone know at what stage it would get passed onto crown court rather than magistrates if the plea hearing is at magistrates?

Okay thanks Lee - thank you for your knowledge sharing :)

At what point do we find out the SHPO conditions? Will this be after magistrates?



(Sorry to.jump on this thread, we have magistrates this week)

Thanks.

Who puts the SHPO together? The police/cps?

I'm just really anxious to see what life post sentence is going to look like in terms of contact.

Sarah - the contact arrangements post sentencing worries me greatly too. It's life changing and we get no control. And all the responsibility for making it okay for the children will fall on us

Hi, we didn't actually get details of our SHPO until our solicitor sent it too us, though all we have is Internet restrictions,

I know. The lack of control has been the worst part of all of this.

We were given the all clear for unsupervised contact last year from social care but cannot do anything until bail restrictions are lifted and I have no idea what is going to be on the SHPO. It sounds really selfish but I've missed going out with my friends. I hate having to ask my mum to babysit/supervise everytime I am asked to go somewhere. So I just don't go. I'm worried they'll just stop asking. It's another punishment for the non offending partner to add to the list.

Lee1969 is right about pushing for SHPO fortunately ours didn't have anything but Internet restrictions in it

Sarah, it doesn't sound selfish at all. I don't have any family at all on both sides. My parents have passed away and we have no other family. I have no one but my husband at all that would normally have the kids whilst I met with friends. I know that this is now all at risk and I am so worried and over whelmed about how I am going to cope with literally no one to help me with them. I feel like I am going to go mad and for this reason I don't see how I can stay with him because I really don't understand how he could do this to us. Like you say it's like we are going to be punished for something I had no clue about and my life will be over too

Starry,

I'm completely with you. The forced social isolation is what I'm really struggling with - don't get me wrong I didn't go out every night. I've stopped meeting my friends every two weeks and running club, alongside other things which kept me sane. I get that he'll be allowed to see the children and I fully understand that it is my responsibility to keep them safe but it's a struggle when there are limited people who a) know about the offence and b) are able to supervise. Life has been on hold for a year I'm dreading getting slapped with a ten year SHPO and sor. We have a clear safety plan created by social care (who worked with us for 3 months and closed) which allows for unsupervised at my discretion so I hope our solicitor can use this in someway.

I am the very same. Definately not out every night but like to meet up with my friends for dinner/lunch etc........ no one at all knows about this offence and I feel like it will be easier to split then I won't have to explain about why we don't go anywhere together but doesn't explain why he can't look after his own children as any split up parents do.
I am terrified about getting slapped with a 10year SHPO, for that i feel like I am being punished.
SS aw us at the first arrest and closed our case as they deemed me fit as a protective parent and I will do anything to ensure my children are safe. I don't have a safety plan but would like to be prepared for when they come back into our lives (we've been told only another couple of weeks for phone to be checked). What should I have prepared so that SS see that I am serious about protecting my children but that they will want to see their dad?
Any advice welcome

Thank you so much

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