Verbal abuse from my mum
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Hi all,
Today has been a hard day for me me and my partner chose to stop contact for 2 weeks to keep my mum quiet and already I'm heartbroken all day I have had to stop my self messaging him.
I went and painted my nans nails to keep me busy and when I got home I went to start preparing for a job interview tomorrow. We have been cleaning out our log cabin the last week as me and my partner lived in there until he wasn't allowed back so she has been putting different things from there into the house, she made the choice to put it in there. So I got home and my mum started verbally abusing me telling me to how I have continmated every room in the house and she doesn't care about my interview she wants all my stuff out of her house.
She swore at me and screamed and chased and threatened me round the house. She then acts like nothing happened. I am barely keeping my self together with all this I'm going through on top of her verbally abusing me and I have now messaged my partner because why should I stop talking to him for her when she treats me this way.
I can't take much more of it I want to sneak away in the night and turn off my phone ????????
Today has been a hard day for me me and my partner chose to stop contact for 2 weeks to keep my mum quiet and already I'm heartbroken all day I have had to stop my self messaging him.
I went and painted my nans nails to keep me busy and when I got home I went to start preparing for a job interview tomorrow. We have been cleaning out our log cabin the last week as me and my partner lived in there until he wasn't allowed back so she has been putting different things from there into the house, she made the choice to put it in there. So I got home and my mum started verbally abusing me telling me to how I have continmated every room in the house and she doesn't care about my interview she wants all my stuff out of her house.
She swore at me and screamed and chased and threatened me round the house. She then acts like nothing happened. I am barely keeping my self together with all this I'm going through on top of her verbally abusing me and I have now messaged my partner because why should I stop talking to him for her when she treats me this way.
I can't take much more of it I want to sneak away in the night and turn off my phone ????????
Hi,
I am so sorry your mum is being so harsh on you, I hope u r OK, sorry I can't help but keep coming on here to talk to people xx
I am so sorry your mum is being so harsh on you, I hope u r OK, sorry I can't help but keep coming on here to talk to people xx
She has now told me I'm not allowed out and that she has every right to make sure I don't leave this house. I'm 23 years old and should be able to do want I want to and see who I want to. But even though I feel this way I can't walk out that door because I'm scared how she'll react and what she will do.
Are staying with your mum or staying with him the only options? It sounds like you could really do with a third option to give you space to make your own decisions. If there is anyway to go somewhere safe away from both of them - a close friend or something? I don't know what emergency accommodation councils can provide?
If that controlling behaviour is your mum's way of processing emotions and she is actually a safe person to be around then you will know that.
Whatever you need to do, you can do this. Writing in here shows you have inner strength. Put yourself first and do what you need to.
If that controlling behaviour is your mum's way of processing emotions and she is actually a safe person to be around then you will know that.
Whatever you need to do, you can do this. Writing in here shows you have inner strength. Put yourself first and do what you need to.
My partner has been speaking to the samaritans, stop it now and he's also paying to see a therapist. When I see him I look through his phone.
My partner never cried and he has cried and he's really trying and he's getting lots of help and he's writing a diary of each day.
I said the same to him about showing me that he is remorseful. He has made loads of progress already. But everyday he is showing me what he is doing to get better.
They are the only places I have as my family are very much so the same and sometimes I just don't want to talk about this and just want to have a day where I just think of myself and my family still bombard me with questions and what I should do.
My mum has always been very controlling and at my age I feel I shouldn't be feeling trapped in my house. My partner is being patient but my family are pressuring.
I thought about doing a house share like he has so I get my own space but there are people about so I don't feel so alone. I'm just in the middle of jobs so I feel even more stuck not having enough money to leave.
Hugs to you all xx
My partner never cried and he has cried and he's really trying and he's getting lots of help and he's writing a diary of each day.
I said the same to him about showing me that he is remorseful. He has made loads of progress already. But everyday he is showing me what he is doing to get better.
They are the only places I have as my family are very much so the same and sometimes I just don't want to talk about this and just want to have a day where I just think of myself and my family still bombard me with questions and what I should do.
My mum has always been very controlling and at my age I feel I shouldn't be feeling trapped in my house. My partner is being patient but my family are pressuring.
I thought about doing a house share like he has so I get my own space but there are people about so I don't feel so alone. I'm just in the middle of jobs so I feel even more stuck not having enough money to leave.
Hugs to you all xx
Hi,
Yeah my partner is doing the modules and yeah I feel so alone even when I have my family around me because they don't understand what I'm feeling but I'm doing what I need to, to make me happy and focusing on myself.
Thank you all for your advice I will keep you all updated on how I go.
Hugs xx
Yeah my partner is doing the modules and yeah I feel so alone even when I have my family around me because they don't understand what I'm feeling but I'm doing what I need to, to make me happy and focusing on myself.
Thank you all for your advice I will keep you all updated on how I go.
Hugs xx