Family and Friends Forum

Hi everyone,

It's just over 2 weeks since the knock and I've been pushing through, this forum has being an amazing support for me. I have still been seeing my partner because I want to be there to support him through this.

I've been at his place for the last 2 nights and my mum has contacted me saying she has recieved threats about me... I honestly don't know what to do she didn't/wouldn't tell me what they were saying and who said it.

We are 2 weeks in and no one but a few important members of our families know and my now ex boss as I worked with children. My mum in the past has been manipulative and not been honest with me so I can do what she wants. Which is leaving me struggling to believe if this is true or her just trying to make me leave my partner.

I feel frustrated because if other people know then who has told these people. She has been so controlling since this has happened and being 23 I should be able to make my own decision I know she's my mum but I don't know if this is a strategy of hers to make me leave my partner because I really don't want to.

I have had several members of my family constantly calling and messaging swearing at me and telling me what I should do. I feel so stressed and anxious.

Please give me some advice on what I should do about these threats? I feel like it's to soon to be having threats? They are threats about me not my partner which leaves me feeling confused as to why I'm the only one getting these?

I just feel so scared to leave my partners house because only me, my partner and his parents know where he lives so I feel safer here then at home if these threats are real.

I just want to cry..

This is what I was going to do as I feel I need to know if this is true or not. I don't think they would if I wasn't with my partner, this decision I have made isn't set in stone as we are so early on and my partner is aware and respects that we are taking each day as it comes.

I would be so hurt if this isn't true and my family will have pushed me away even more than what they have already done.

I feel so angry and scared at the same time.

That's what I want to do but my family keep harassing me they want to know where I am and they are sending me horrible messages still and it makes me not want to go back to my mums because I feel like they will all be there when I get back ready to have a go at me I don't know what to do.

My mind keeps telling me to shut my phone off and stay at my partners where I feel safe but I know I need to face them. They way they are acting is pushing me away they are trying to force me to leave my parnter.

Yeah I agree with you completely, I'm sorry you and your daughter had to go through that. I'm lucky enough that my partner isn't physical or violent because if he was I would have walked away.

I really appreciate the advice and it has helped me alot thank you xx

I'm so sorry for what you have all gone through, we will all get through this together by supporting each other.

Thank you so much for the support you have helped me alot.

Sending hugs xx