Please help. New here
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Morning.
I'm new to the forum after my whole life blowing up 2 days ago.
My husband has been arrested and charged.
He was kept at the police station that night and appeared in court yesterday.
He was released on bail to our home address with conditions. No unsupervised contact with my children.
I am terrified. Terrified of what to do to deal with this.
He is suicidal. I have never seen him like this before and I don't know what to do.
SS are obviously involved and one of my children was interviewed yesterday. There have no concerns that anything has happening with her at all but I feel that they are pressuring me to not let him live here.
Another query is. If he goes to the doctors and tells them how he is feeling, will this impact with SS or anything.
I need as much help as I can to get through this. I have not told anyone and have nobody that I can confide in.
I'm new to the forum after my whole life blowing up 2 days ago.
My husband has been arrested and charged.
He was kept at the police station that night and appeared in court yesterday.
He was released on bail to our home address with conditions. No unsupervised contact with my children.
I am terrified. Terrified of what to do to deal with this.
He is suicidal. I have never seen him like this before and I don't know what to do.
SS are obviously involved and one of my children was interviewed yesterday. There have no concerns that anything has happening with her at all but I feel that they are pressuring me to not let him live here.
Another query is. If he goes to the doctors and tells them how he is feeling, will this impact with SS or anything.
I need as much help as I can to get through this. I have not told anyone and have nobody that I can confide in.
Ash,
Nothing is likely to happen quickly. Take deep breaths and try and make some time for yourself. Speak to the helpline or doctor if you have no-one to talk to.
I don't know how old your children are but you if you can confide in someone it will make the no unsupervised contact easier.
I'm not going to lie, it isn't easy buy the shock will subside in a few days and you will be able to function better.
If he is suicidal contact his doctor. The police also have a duty of care but please remember that you cannot be responsible for him. Having been in a similar situation I know that goes against every instinct and you just want to make everything better. Sounds harsh but you need to think about you and the kids first.
Sending hugs xx
Nothing is likely to happen quickly. Take deep breaths and try and make some time for yourself. Speak to the helpline or doctor if you have no-one to talk to.
I don't know how old your children are but you if you can confide in someone it will make the no unsupervised contact easier.
I'm not going to lie, it isn't easy buy the shock will subside in a few days and you will be able to function better.
If he is suicidal contact his doctor. The police also have a duty of care but please remember that you cannot be responsible for him. Having been in a similar situation I know that goes against every instinct and you just want to make everything better. Sounds harsh but you need to think about you and the kids first.
Sending hugs xx
I am so so thankful for your replies.
I think I've been in shock until today and now the tears have come.
I honestly don't know what to do. I just want to run away.
I'm so scared of the implications for my children if people find out. Are they going to lose their friends, get bullied etc. Especially if I stay with him.
I think I've been in shock until today and now the tears have come.
I honestly don't know what to do. I just want to run away.
I'm so scared of the implications for my children if people find out. Are they going to lose their friends, get bullied etc. Especially if I stay with him.
Hi.
I posted the other day about being new here.
just wondering if anyone has kids around 11-16 and how to cope moving forward.
I guess I'm asking the following-
if it got out in in public, did they lose their friends?
Did you stay in the same area and how did people react, especially if you stayed with your partner.
if you moved away, how easy will it be for the kids to make friends?
if partner was placed on the register and you stayed together as a family, can your kids have their friends round ever?
im sorry for all of the questions but I'm so scared and confused.
I posted the other day about being new here.
just wondering if anyone has kids around 11-16 and how to cope moving forward.
I guess I'm asking the following-
if it got out in in public, did they lose their friends?
Did you stay in the same area and how did people react, especially if you stayed with your partner.
if you moved away, how easy will it be for the kids to make friends?
if partner was placed on the register and you stayed together as a family, can your kids have their friends round ever?
im sorry for all of the questions but I'm so scared and confused.
I remember those early days and the trauma we went through as a family. Bless you, hug sent x