Family and Friends Forum

Out of my comfort zone

Notifications OFF

Mw

Member since
March 2021

150 posts

Posted Fri September 10, 2021 8:05amReport post

So although I have decided we need to seperate after the crown court hearing (and we know what we are dealing with) I have still agreed to do couples counseling. My husband has been seeing a psychotherapist and feels it would help me to try and understand where his head was at. This is way out of my comfort zone as I'm quite a reserved person when it comes to dealing with issues 'out in the open'. I am willing to give anything a try though as I have been really struggling recently.

I know it won't make me change my mind about seperating but it might make me understand why he went down this dark road in the first place. I need to be able to trust again to be able to move on with my life.

Has anyone else tried couples counselling and has it helped?

Edited Fri September 10, 2021 8:06am

purplepen22

Member since
August 2021

20 posts

Posted Sun September 12, 2021 8:03amReport post

Mw,

My partner and I have been going to couples counseling ever since my partner told me about what happened. It has helped a lot, not just in rebuilding trust and talking through different parts of this experience, but also in fine-tuning our communication skills in general. It has also helped my partner learn how to better recognize, understand, and express different emotions. I definitely recommend. As long as your counselor is kind and has solid therapy experience under their belt, there is something to gain in giving it a try.

CrazyMayBaby

Member since
October 2018

33 posts

Posted Thu September 23, 2021 8:46amReport post

We went to couples counselling too and it helped. It reminded us of why we were together and that we had a great life prior to the arrest. For me, it was worth fighting for. Not easy by any means but I'm glad I stayed.

Also, I had counselling just for myself. It was a safe space for me to talk openly about how it had all affected me. At first it was tough - to be honest, vunerable and talk about such an awful event but it helped me understand how to care for my own mental health.

As has already been said, with a trusted counsellor you have nothing to lose.

Sending strenth.

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Thu December 9, 2021 9:33pmReport post

Where did you find couples counselling, can you get referred or do you arrange privately?



x