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What does life look like after this?

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helpneeded1

Member since
August 2021

27 posts

Posted Mon September 13, 2021 8:13pmReport post

It's been almost 6 weeks since the knock, and after the initial shock, anger upset etc, ive been trying to stay strong for my son ive almost been ignoring that this has happened. I feel like I've been running on adrenaline if I'm honest and it feels like it's starting to wear off.

I'm really looking for advise from someone who is a bit further down the line and can offer any tips or things you have done that helped you move on from this mess?

I split from my sons dad (the reason we're in this mess) the moment he was arrested. He's not stepped foot back in the house, and I've only spoken with him once where he offered no good explanation to why he did what he's done.



Thanks!

Edited Mon September 13, 2021 8:13pm

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Thu September 16, 2021 4:57amReport post

I'd just say, take each day as it comes, count the blessings you have (although there probably doesn't seem many in this journey). If you keep trawling over small details of the past - the - 'ifs' and 'why' it'll be no good for your mental health and you've done nothing wrong. What is done is in the past now and it can't be changed......

i can go over many traumas that happened to my family member during discovery, remand/custody, arrest, court appearances, dealings with the police etc. But it's no good for us his family or him in prison. So you have to try to be brave, although it's easier said than done at times......

Edited Thu September 16, 2021 5:04am