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Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Wed September 15, 2021 9:57pmReport post

Hi everyone,



I just want to say a big thank u to all the ladies & gents if there is any for sharing ur stories and letting me know that I'm not as alone as I feel. Thank u for all the knowledgeable people who five great advice and keeping giving I'm sure I'm not the only one is grateful xx

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Wed September 15, 2021 10:15pmReport post

Hey Dawn!

This forum is a God send and there's so many wonderful people with such varied experience. Couldn't imagine this horrific journey without it. Hoping we all get to a peaceful and happy destination soon :)

Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Wed September 15, 2021 11:21pmReport post

Hi Baffled,

I completely agree xx

Blue82

Member since
January 2020

95 posts

Posted Thu September 16, 2021 12:13amReport post

I could not agree more! Thank you to everyone of you that's replied and helped advise. Really don't know what I'd of done without this place xxx

Edited Thu September 16, 2021 12:13am

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Thu September 16, 2021 4:45amReport post

I too treasure this forum - I was pretty scared at first to join. With so many fingers pointing at you its just nice to talk about the horror, fear, anger, love and sadness you feel through this journey with people that know exactly how you feel.

Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Thu September 16, 2021 8:55amReport post

Smile through the tears,

Exactly I feel the same just knowing I'm not alone is making me feel better and knowing that although they r making me feel bad for supporting my husband actually I'm not alone in that either xxxxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Thu September 16, 2021 4:28pmReport post

Hi, I can understand the feelings of disgust in these crimes - leading to hate and wanting to end a relationship. If that's the way a person feels then I'd respect that.

BUT it's not fair to expect others to follow suite, it's their personal decision - it doesn't mean they forgive the person concerned. Everyone suffers in this journey.

Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Thu September 16, 2021 7:53pmReport post

Smile through tears,

Again I completely agree, just because we stand by them doesn't mean we agree with wat they have done xx

Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Fri September 17, 2021 9:44amReport post

I completely agree Lee, I'm starting to get that thick skin now but it's taken a while xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Sun September 19, 2021 6:41amReport post

Well said - Lee1969

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Sun September 19, 2021 3:11pmReport post

I totally agree Lee! Until I was put in the position I'm in and read everyone's stories I would've been one of the very same people who condemned the partner/family of those who stand by their loved one but now I see that not all sizes fit one in this world and there is a lot more to it. What does baffle me though is why people are so determined that "offenders" should be left by everyone and on their own - surely it is better to have love and support to help them heal and be better.

I just hope anyone who is unnecessarily nasty or openly judgemental towards us don't find themselves in this position one day because it is possibly one of the most difficult situations I think you can find yourself in. You can find support and strength from others for "normal" problems in this life but for issues like we face, it is oftens a lonely grief to go through and rips your whole world apart.

Thankful to this forum and the amazing people who contribute to it <3

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Tue September 21, 2021 1:23pmReport post

My goodness how I agree - my family member is not evil (as the media implied) - hes made one hell of a mistake and travelled down a dark illegal path.

I can go to my grave hoping my 'support' helped him back on track. It gives me peace of mind - that I did my best / if you see what I mean.....

Edited Wed September 22, 2021 12:34am