Does that ????????? Still work here
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It's been a year since the knock and I'm getting better until now.
my ex and I worked together but he's been put on long term sick while the investigation is on going. We work in a very public orientated job and things have been quiet I've had a few notice he's missing and let them believe he's left me for someone else.
my best friend has just started working within the company and has had a member of staff ask her if it's true he's off with something to do with kids? And even gone up and said a member of public has asked her does that peodophile (sorry but I hate that word and sorry if it upsets) still work here. I've had trouble with this member of staff saying things which have started with "rusty says" which have been lies.
Im more angry than anything as my kids have started back at school and I worry what they will think and other parents.
I live in a small village and seen how they react to things like this with posts on Facebook and saying things to the family.
what do I do? Do I ingnore this colleague say something to them or raise it with management?
sorry again for the long post
thanks for reading
x
my ex and I worked together but he's been put on long term sick while the investigation is on going. We work in a very public orientated job and things have been quiet I've had a few notice he's missing and let them believe he's left me for someone else.
my best friend has just started working within the company and has had a member of staff ask her if it's true he's off with something to do with kids? And even gone up and said a member of public has asked her does that peodophile (sorry but I hate that word and sorry if it upsets) still work here. I've had trouble with this member of staff saying things which have started with "rusty says" which have been lies.
Im more angry than anything as my kids have started back at school and I worry what they will think and other parents.
I live in a small village and seen how they react to things like this with posts on Facebook and saying things to the family.
what do I do? Do I ingnore this colleague say something to them or raise it with management?
sorry again for the long post
thanks for reading
x
Hi Rusty,
Firstly, let's all agree that your colleague is an absolute A-hole and nobody would blame you if you accidentally flushed her head down the toilet if you bumped into her in the toilets. Personally, I would look into any policies you have relating to dignity in the workplace and find the exact phrase which relates to her starting what is effectively a slanderous rumour, ask to speak to her somewhere quietly and confront her that you've been told what she has been saying and should she continue to make such awful and damaging remarks you will have no other option than to submit a grievance. If she questions you about the situation to try and confirm her little rumour, I would tell her that it's absolutely none of her business and reinforce the grievance going in if she carries on. Or you could go ahead with a grievance and hopefully she'll go about her own life with her tail between her legs. I understand you probably want as least fuss as possible right now but in my experience the only way to get through to people like that is to get serious about it.
Sending love xx
Firstly, let's all agree that your colleague is an absolute A-hole and nobody would blame you if you accidentally flushed her head down the toilet if you bumped into her in the toilets. Personally, I would look into any policies you have relating to dignity in the workplace and find the exact phrase which relates to her starting what is effectively a slanderous rumour, ask to speak to her somewhere quietly and confront her that you've been told what she has been saying and should she continue to make such awful and damaging remarks you will have no other option than to submit a grievance. If she questions you about the situation to try and confirm her little rumour, I would tell her that it's absolutely none of her business and reinforce the grievance going in if she carries on. Or you could go ahead with a grievance and hopefully she'll go about her own life with her tail between her legs. I understand you probably want as least fuss as possible right now but in my experience the only way to get through to people like that is to get serious about it.
Sending love xx
Hi thank you BaffledB
My friend told the manager what had been said and he's basically said he's going to do nothing about it as it will probably add fuel to the fire. I'm so angry at him and the colleague. It's not myself I'm worried about it's the children now they are back at school I told my friend if it all comes out and no one talks to me again I wouldn't care as they are not bothering about aslong as I've got my two closest friends still I can tackle anything.
Once again thank you x
My friend told the manager what had been said and he's basically said he's going to do nothing about it as it will probably add fuel to the fire. I'm so angry at him and the colleague. It's not myself I'm worried about it's the children now they are back at school I told my friend if it all comes out and no one talks to me again I wouldn't care as they are not bothering about aslong as I've got my two closest friends still I can tackle anything.
Once again thank you x
That is not good enough! I would defo put a grievance in writing in. Regardless of people's feelings towards "offenders" they have no right to behave in such a manner or make the family's lifes uncomfortable - firstly because they don't know the whole story and secondly because it's none of their god damn business.
Sorry you're having to deal with this at an already difficult time. Sending love to you x
Sorry you're having to deal with this at an already difficult time. Sending love to you x
if I was on that situation I think it might be better to ignore your colleagues or find alternative employment with a different firm