Sentencing day
Notifications OFF
2 1/2 yrs since the knock and today it was finalised.
8 months suspended for 2yrs,how do I feel... sick.. there was a reporter in court so it's not over yet, all my neighbours my work colleagues and my friends will soon know what he has done if it hits the social media/local papers,he is full of remorse but I still can't get over the why he did what he did, I don't think I ever will, he has lost everyone he loves, and I can't help him with that. I feel that the worse is still to come, we live in a small village, I work within that village.My heart is broken like so many others,I question why do they do this to us? Where I go from here I honestly have no idea..he is still at our property but in the spare room, who would want him? No one, am I callous enough to put him on the street? No I'm not. 31yrs together. How do I end it? So so many questions with no answers, to you all going through the same my heart breaks for you. I don't think I will ever be the same person again.
8 months suspended for 2yrs,how do I feel... sick.. there was a reporter in court so it's not over yet, all my neighbours my work colleagues and my friends will soon know what he has done if it hits the social media/local papers,he is full of remorse but I still can't get over the why he did what he did, I don't think I ever will, he has lost everyone he loves, and I can't help him with that. I feel that the worse is still to come, we live in a small village, I work within that village.My heart is broken like so many others,I question why do they do this to us? Where I go from here I honestly have no idea..he is still at our property but in the spare room, who would want him? No one, am I callous enough to put him on the street? No I'm not. 31yrs together. How do I end it? So so many questions with no answers, to you all going through the same my heart breaks for you. I don't think I will ever be the same person again.
Oh bless you Staffy - it's questions we all go over and over, who knows if we will ever get an answer or if there is an answer.
i quickly learnt not to try to take everything on board at once - you'll be overwhelmed. Lots of sanarios will go through your mind but these things might not happen so 'try' to keep your foot on the brake and slow down.
the journey is hard and painful but you will rebuild and find a new normal. Take your time.
hug x
i quickly learnt not to try to take everything on board at once - you'll be overwhelmed. Lots of sanarios will go through your mind but these things might not happen so 'try' to keep your foot on the brake and slow down.
the journey is hard and painful but you will rebuild and find a new normal. Take your time.
hug x
Hiya hun.
Sorry to hear this news. We are heading down this road at the moment and dread the media and crap that goes with it.
But you have to just take each day at a time. Deep breaths and do what you think is right.
Myself I have made a pleage to hubby that I will stand by him , but if he as much as looks at another website of illegal I will boot his arse out.
Big ((hugs)) xx
Sorry to hear this news. We are heading down this road at the moment and dread the media and crap that goes with it.
But you have to just take each day at a time. Deep breaths and do what you think is right.
Myself I have made a pleage to hubby that I will stand by him , but if he as much as looks at another website of illegal I will boot his arse out.
Big ((hugs)) xx
Bless u
you are right about so many questions and no answers. My heart went out to you reading ur post x
you are right about so many questions and no answers. My heart went out to you reading ur post x
Staffy I sincerely hope the media are kind and the backlash isn't long lasting xx my heart goes out to you my love. There was a reporter at my husbands plea hearing last week, but thankfully he was there for a different case. Stay strong beautiful lady xx
Staff, I really am thinking of you, my partners case was in local media, it is now 2 months on, all I can say is the best advice we had was to deal with each problem as it arises, and try not to think to far ahead, though it is hard, I struggle with lieing to friends and family about wahts happened very hard, though I understand it is the best thing to do, it really is hour by hour day by day,
Thank you all for your replies, the news was put out on a local social media site. and shared by a few people to certain groups in my area so I've taken some time away from the area to breathe. It's funny how people who I haven't heard from in years suddenly contact me, but I know who my true friends are and I know the haters from the supporters. When I go home in a few days I will be stronger and able to move forward in what ever way I choose to and if people don't like my decision then they can walk away.
Do I still love him? Yes I do, do I hate what he's done? Yes I do. Can we come back from this awfulness, time will tell,when I get home I will take one day at a time and that's all I can do.
sending you all my love and thanks for words of support and comfort. X
Do I still love him? Yes I do, do I hate what he's done? Yes I do. Can we come back from this awfulness, time will tell,when I get home I will take one day at a time and that's all I can do.
sending you all my love and thanks for words of support and comfort. X
Hi staff,
That my love is all u can do, is take each day at a time and some days it might be u have to take each hour by hour, that's way I have had to do lately x sending love and hugs ur way xx
That my love is all u can do, is take each day at a time and some days it might be u have to take each hour by hour, that's way I have had to do lately x sending love and hugs ur way xx
Staffy, you are a bloody strong women by the sound of it..... Huge respect to you xxx I hope life will settle down and your relationship goes from strength to strength xxx
Staff, sending you all my love, hour by hour, day by day, problems, one at a time, has helped us, stay strong