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Hopeforthefuture

Member since
September 2021

97 posts

Posted Wed September 22, 2021 7:10amReport post

We had the knock 18 months ago. My husband was taken in for questioning and released. For 16 months we lived in limbo until we got a second knock. The first time being questioned it was over an image that he received from a social media platform (he swears to me after that image was send he deleted the image and the person in question). The second time of questioning he was quizzed about images from a WhatsApp group he was in with his friends. He'd already told me years before that certain members of the group were out of control with what they had posted. Anyway within a couple of months he was charged with indecent image possession and is due in crown court for sentencing in the next few days. He's moved out but we're still in touch and I'm very supportive of him. His so called friends have been absolutely vile. Spreading rumors and threatening me to stay away for my own protection. He had an appointment with a probation officer yesterday who said she will be recommending 2 years probation and a 12 hour curfew.... I don't understand what this means. I am aware though that it's down to the judge on the day and that he could still get a custodial sentence for this. I have a handful of amazing friends who literally have kept me sane during this time, especially the last few weeks. Then I found this group and your stories and support for each other really lifted my spirits. I know there are people out there going through what I'm going through, snd as sad as that makes me, it also gives me some comfort to know that I'm not alone.

just wanted to post my story because it's eating me up inside

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

445 posts

Posted Tue October 5, 2021 1:24pmReport post

Hello Hopeforthefuture,

Thank you for reaching out for some support and advice from the Family and Friends Forum. We have noticed that your post has not yet received a response from other forum users yet. It is positive that you have been able to access support from forum users on different threads, but I recognise how hard it may have been to write this post, so I just wanted to say well done for doing so.



I can understand from reading your post that this is a very distressing time for you and I am sorry to hear about the threats you have received from your partners friends. I would encourage you to keep a written log with the times and dates of those threats if they continue and report them straight away to the police by calling 101 or if you are in any immediate danger on 999.



If you haven’t already done so, it might be helpful for you to contact us on our Stop It Now! helpline on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained and non-judgmental advisors will then be able to support you further and provide some tailored guidance and advice and we can give you a little more information about the sentencing outcomes and what they mean.



Take care,

Lucy

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Member since
October 2021

1 post

Posted Tue October 5, 2021 9:00pmReport post

Hello hopefor the future

I am new to this forum and like you i am wondering how we get through this im not in your position and cant imagine what you are going through but i agree you need to keep a log of incidents the police have told us this also as poeple found out what our son was arrested for.

Lets hope we all get through these terrible times.

Take care 1896