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Fatso

Member since
November 2019

107 posts

Posted Mon September 27, 2021 10:41pmReport post

I am trying to find out why all sex offenders are treated the same, I have a relative who is in prison for communication with a police decoy but will be on SOR indenfintely but a rapist gets the same time on SOR. Where is the fairness in the system?

Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Mon September 27, 2021 11:01pmReport post

Fatso

My family member isn't in prison, but I am the same as you, I don't understand it one bit, I believe men should be punished but to the same extent as a rapist is beyond me, the mind boggles but justice / police system needs to change. Also loads of rapists are not ever convicted due to police neglect which makes my blood boil.

Every day I wake up thinking of what your asking .. my sons life will never be the same and will always be known as a sex offender .. its like if a man has a pee in a public place he is given a caution and made to sign the sor what an earth is that about.

Sorry probably wrote far too much but just wanted to say I agree with you 100 % take care x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Tue September 28, 2021 5:01amReport post

Yes this I find heartbreaking too. My son is SO determined to fight his demons, gain confidence through education/programmes etc and rebuild his life in prison.


All he has left is his savings. No home, lost 90% of his family, no job, having to watch his back and be called a pervert/pedafile for the rest of his life. A hard working lad that received lots of praise in his role before he went down this path - totally irrelevant, gone......

once again saying this I'm not condoning what he did, never will....

Edited Tue September 28, 2021 5:05am

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Tue September 28, 2021 10:13amReport post

I totally agree, there is also the issue that a lot of rapes go to CPS but are dismissed due to lack of evidence even though they are guilty. Yet someone can have a conversation and play out a fantasy (albeit still not acceptable) and end up in jail even though they may never act out and cause any harm?

I understand it is seen as a deterrent to send people to prison but with such a complex issue which has so much misunderstanding I personally think a lot of cases would be better dealt with psychological treatment. It's a lose lose situation all round for majority of cases you see on here.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2547 posts

Posted Wed September 29, 2021 3:59amReport post

I agree 100%. My son got a very heavy sentence which I struggle with every day. Think he needed custody but not what he got! I just pray he comes out stronger the other end and not a wreck.... esp if I'm not here to support him..... not old, but no spring chicken!!!!

just seems crazy to fill up our prisons with sex offenders and not look into why the numbers are so vast and dig into the roots of why this crime is so common.

Edited Wed September 29, 2021 4:05am

Fatso

Member since
November 2019

107 posts

Posted Wed September 29, 2021 7:21pmReport post

Hi Becky and smile through tears

I think 3 of us are in the same situation, i am on mumsnet as pinky 57 if you ever need to chat.

Becky1234

Member since
March 2021

208 posts

Posted Thu September 30, 2021 9:16amReport post

Morning

I did try & message you on mumsnet but didn't go through. My username is Bec0310

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