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You must report it. The law has a safeguarding duty to protect him.

Oh my. When my son was on bail - we were told to contact the police at any time if we felt unsafe, him too...

it's so wrong and horrible for innocent family members to be frightened in their own home.

So sorry to hear that Hope :( were they ex friends because he'd told them? Or had they found out by other means?

I really hope this passes quickly without repercussions for you and the family. The fear on top of everything is too much xx thinking of you

Hi Hopeforthefuture

I was in a very similar situation to you a few months back. No media were present at the plea hearing, but unfortunately a very small article was printed in a local paper (very small town) press must of got hold of it somehow. When my OH was sentenced and no media were at the court so I thought the fall out would be minimal. Little did I know my brother and his friend turned up at the crown court to hear sentencing and later that day set up a Facebook group to discuss and tear my OH apart. Someone I know sent me a screenshot of what was being said in the group (I was avoiding Social media) and my name and my children were mentioned in comments. I reported it to the police immediately.
So what I'm saying is...if your names or any one innocent are mentioned, you can take action. Also anything threatening can also be dealt with. The police visited my brother and his friend and told them to remove the posts and stop immediately what they were doing. If they didn't they could be looking at charges of inciting hatered. Gather evidence of anything you are concerned about and contact the police if you are worried.

Blue xx

We made a pact when investigations started (immediately stop fb) and not to tell anyone apart from close family. Hard as it was we carried on our normal working life. Then the whole world seemed to know thanks to the media. Even now some people don't know a thing - which is sometimes equally as painful as they ask "is your son keeping busy at work" - then it's a quick change of subject!!!!!

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. It's just so unfair.

How old is your son? How is he coping with it?

I hope it settles down for you

Hi Hope,

I think I remember your story and your husband was in a Whatsapp group where stuff was shared between his friends but he got done for it? Personally I would be going back on social media, setting the facts straight and tagging his friends in to get some flack too but I'm sometimes too fiesty for my own good. As with all scandals they do go away and get forgotten about. Just hang in there and remember YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.

Sending love and strength xxx

Oh no bless you....... it's all so wrong to drag in and point gossipy fingers at innocent family members. It really is an horrendous time but each and everyone of us have been through these hard days..... we send a big united hug.....

We've all thought that my love. Life really is worth living..... honestly x

I'm thanking you Lee1969 / I also find this reassuring x

I hate how families are made targets for something they have had no part it!
I hope the police can give you some good advice.
has your son had any bother at school because of it?



sending you strength

Hopeforthefuture - you are going to get through this. You are strong and you can do this. It may seem so dark right now, but this too will pass xx

Hi Hopeforthefuture,

I'm so sorry that you and your family have been outted in the vigilante group. You've already come so far already and shown incredible strength.

"The devil whispered in my ear, you are not strong enough to withstand this storm. Today, I whispered in the devil's ear - I am the storm"

Please stay strong, this will pass. Thinking of you x

My heart goes out to you - I have been worried about this too.
Although we have been ok so far (2 1/2 weeks post court) and have had no problems at the house , some 'kind ' person has informed my sons place of work about a small article that was published before we went to court. He was pulled in and suspended pending disciplinary. As if he hasn't dealt with enough! He is going to hand his notice in as he can't deal mentally with anything else.



I feel it's 1 step forward and 4 steps back .

Trying so hard to be strong for him but am getting to my breaking point x

I'm so sorry you are going through this and we too were outed on Facebook by a vigilant group (those people disgust me) I've always found them strange to be so invested and the saying those who shout the loudest springs to mind.

it's old news before you know it and remember you have done nothing wrong xx