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Have cases had a quicker outcome since the end of Covid.

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Chelsea 1

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June 2021

891 posts

Posted Tue October 5, 2021 6:52amReport post

Hiya all.

Just wondering if anybody knew or thought that since the lockdowns are finished etc if cases are finishing quicker. Ie the outcome.

Xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed October 6, 2021 5:42pmReport post

Hiya.

Just wondering if anybody knew. Sorry.

Xx

Mum2son

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October 2021

4 posts

Posted Thu October 7, 2021 9:28amReport post

Hi Chelsea

I don't believe so they are still playing catch up and many more men were caught in lockdown. Statistics have shot up, so sad .

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Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2546 posts

Posted Thu October 7, 2021 12:18pmReport post

I know they opened up 'temporary' courts to deal with the backlog.....

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu October 7, 2021 8:03pmReport post

Hiya Mum.

Blimey that's a long time back.

Yes seen the numbers which are shocking.

Xx

Emmie lou

Member since
January 2021

109 posts

Posted Thu October 7, 2021 10:06pmReport post

Hi Chelsea 1, from the knock to crown court we only waited 10 months, I don't know if that is because of where we are, hope it's not too long fir you its hard once you get to sentencing stage but at least you know what you are dealing with, sending love

LizzeLou

Member since
January 2021

58 posts

Posted Sat October 9, 2021 12:19amReport post

11 months since the knock and not a word other than to return 2 laptops. Solicitor chased it up and was told it takes as long as it takes. Apparently this ridiculous limbo is safer for the children than an unsupervised relationship with their father. Only hope things improve for those of you who are new to this. X

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 9:20amReport post

5 months in the end of the month. Still awaiting 3 devices to come back.

Had the one phone call so far off the arresting officer said hopefully in October with news.

Live in the south of UK.

Xx

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 9:48amReport post

Coming up to a year now. My husband emailed the police officer for an update as I requested. We're not expecting much though tbh .. I could genuinely say I think we're in this for another year...

Which is fine ... Gives us a chance to grow, get some holidays in and such...

I just feel for this of you with children ... Please know you're amazing people!

RL2

Member since
August 2021

3 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 10:22amReport post

At 26 months here.. 18 months of therapy (and a few months councelling) he is a changed person and ready for the rest of his life I'd say.

Yet here we are waiting and wondering what will happen to his life (and ours)

We are in the north west

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 10:29amReport post

Hi RL2.

26 months that's the longest I have seen. My heart goes out to you.

Xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

891 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 11:49amReport post

3 years. That's dam joke. And not a funny one. When it's gets to a certain time I think the punishment should be less for the heartache and mental health on some people.

Shocking xx

RL2

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August 2021

3 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 12:03pmReport post

Thanks Chelsea

At about 12 months he made the decision to start getting on with his life, once the therapy had really made a difference. Hard to believe here we are more than another year later

hes low risk, no kids, work doesn't involve them either kind of thing. police told him he'll always go to the back of the queue!

Lolamoo73

Member since
November 2020

54 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 12:37pmReport post

Nearly 12 months to the dot for us, that's from the knock to the crown court day. We're in the north west

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

891 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 12:52pmReport post

Hi RL2.



That's what we have decided to do and just try and carry on and what will be will be. My hubby has been a idiot but what is done is done xx

Edited Mon October 11, 2021 1:15pm

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 8:50pmReport post

Hiya.

5 months and only one phone call.

Reading more on here seems like they are speeding up a bit but have loads of cases to go through.

Xx

Emma33

Member since
November 2019

23 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 9:04pmReport post

Hi Chelsea

I have been reading the forum since 2019 and have probably read every post on here!

There really is no indication on time I don't think, even before Covid these cases took ages to get to court for a lot of different reasons.

My best advice to you would be, if you love your partner and want to stand by him, work on the issues that have brought him and you here. Whilst doing that, try and put the legal side of things to the back of your mind a little bit and live as normal a life as possible. Get good legal advice and make sure you go through every single thing with them. We didn't and paid the price for that.

No two cases are the same, so I think you will struggle to try and find the answers you are looking for on how long it takes. Everything to do with the police and judiciary is slow and that's not just these cases, it's most!

Enjoy Christmas and try and make it one to remember. The best thing we did in the 16 months we were waiting was make memories xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Fri October 22, 2021 11:10pmReport post

Hiya Emma.

Thank you very much for your reply

Yes we are definitely trying to live a normal life if possible.

Yes love him dearly and trying to work things through.

Hope.you are.ok hun.

Xx

Cookie

Member since
November 2020

28 posts

Posted Sun October 24, 2021 7:24pmReport post

Almost at a year here for us in south west. I am starting to loose faith in anything ever coming from this, in this year I've lost my husband the day the knock came my world broke, however I had my son aged 18 then and my dad to support me, move on almost 12 months and my dad suddenly passed away and my sons gone to uni, feeling low and isolated. The police haven't even given us a call.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed November 10, 2021 1:17pmReport post

Hiya.

Dunno if it's me.

But from I see from here now , cases are getting seen and resolved a lot quicker.

South here.

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oldienotmouldy

Member since
July 2021

11 posts

Posted Wed November 10, 2021 1:42pmReport post

Over a year and nothing since the initial raid. Computers are at least being examined. Enquiries on progress have led to the police saying they will now refuse to reply to any further questions.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Wed November 10, 2021 1:49pmReport post

I don't think any cases are being seen quicker or you can compare one case to another. It's pot luck, a waiting game and we'll be dealt with when we're dealt with. As unfortunate as that is.

Heidi

Member since
June 2021

8 posts

Posted Wed November 10, 2021 2:48pmReport post

My husband has been dealt with really quickly. 5 months from initial arrest to sentencing which was custodial unfortunately :( don't know what's best, he was reacting well to therapy but all this was discontinue throughout his sentence... maybe a longer wait would have helped him get more treatment. Appreciate it must be horrible to have it hanging over your head though

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed November 10, 2021 4:41pmReport post

Hate the waiting game. Make me more and more worried ..

Mabel

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June 2019

208 posts

Posted Thu November 11, 2021 1:34pmReport post

Hi
my partner is 3 years 5 months RUI with no conditions, he has not had a word from the police in this time.



He has done all the therapies and courses he can. I just hope they take this time into consideration.



it just take as long as it takes, it is very frustrating but I have learned to live each day at a time and at least my partner can still work.



Mabel x

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu November 11, 2021 4:41pmReport post

Hiya Mabel.

Blimey that cannot be right. I am so sorry.

That's way to long

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Rusty123

Member since
October 2020

172 posts

Posted Thu November 11, 2021 6:40pmReport post

Been just over a year since the knock and no devices back either.

Smile through tears

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September 2021

2546 posts

Posted Thu November 11, 2021 6:55pmReport post

What a cruel length of time for everyone involved......

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Fri November 12, 2021 4:40pmReport post

It's ridiculous considering technology these days.

I was told by my hubby's arresting officer. 1/ they havnt got the technology and 2/ a lot of the devices get sent off and can take ages. 3/ so many people are getting arrested for the kind of cases.

One day at a time from now on.

Xx