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Surrey_purple

Member since
October 2021

5 posts

Posted Tue October 5, 2021 9:37pmReport post

My ex had his verdict 3 weeks ago now - 2 year suspended sentence, 7 yrs on SOR and rehabilitation programme to complete. He was seen as medium risk due to sexual communications with a minor - who turned out to be an undercover officer.

Before the trail the police had contacted SS who contacted his family and our close friends - yet failed to contact me.

I have been ringing SS for the past 3 weeks to ask if there is any safeguarding in place and no one is calling me back. I've had three SS phone calls in this time and they have all promised to ring me back and no one has. I thought even though he is not a threat to our children, there should be at least some involvement from them but they all seem to have no idea on the case and can't advise me on the safeguarding and him having the children overnight etc.

Has anyone else had this? Can someone get this sentence and then have no restrictions around children?

Bee73

Member since
September 2021

7 posts

Posted Wed October 6, 2021 9:32pmReport post

I am not as far along the line as you. Just 2 months in. 5 weeks ago the SS and DS interviewed my daughter. No contact discovery. I was promised a letter. Nothing. I was told I was going to be assessed formally. I phoned 3 times, each time was told I would be assigned a SW. Still nothing. So I have decided to continue visits to my house with my boyfriend under his bail conditions (no overnight), but I have written my own safety plan and we both abide by it. I have done this to ensure I am covered should they suddenly announce their involvement at some point down the line.

Surrey_purple

Member since
October 2021

5 posts

Posted Thu October 7, 2021 4:46pmReport post

Sorry to hear you are in a similar situation. Its absolutely awful. We had the SW come to the house soon after ex was arrested and they said he was deemed safe around them. But since the sentencing there has been nothing. It seems like they want to tick the boxes, sentence him and then have no follow up.

Sorry to hear you have been left in the dark also though regarding the children. It's so infuriating isn't it, especially when you are ringing and getting no reply.

I hope your journey doesn't get too hard.