Ex husband abuse
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So I've just found out my ex husband was sexualy abused at the age of 5, and I know that people that have been abused sometimes go on to do this crime, but I genuinely don't understand that, so he knows the pain of abuse so why would he be turned on by other children being abuse, he's been through the pain thay are going through. I don't get it? Can anyone on here explain why?
I think also being mixed up with your sexuality 'can' lead you down this path.
It's definitely worth doing some reading of books about male sex offenders, addictions and also on trauma and the brain. It can help to identify why others have ended up doing the things they have done. Then of course they can get the help they need. I'm feeling that a forensic Pyschologist maybe needed at the start of the process and then again if that person has started getting help and pre sentence. No idea if I am right but thinking for us this maybe a way forward.
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I agree with you as my son told us he was gay after we had the knock for images
I agree with you as my son told us he was gay after we had the knock for images
Thank you everyone for taking time to answer my post, I have an update, so yesterday he phoned me distressed because he had memory's of being abused by an adult when he was 5, I was so heartbroken for that little boy and what happened to him, I couldn't stop thinking about it. Today he phoned and said sorry the memory was wrong he wasn't abused by an adult, it was him at 5 that done something to another little boy! What the hell, he made me feel sorry for him, which I haven't felt sorry for him in this whole mess because he knew what he was doing. I'm so angry.
Sorry to everyone for wasting your time.
Sorry to everyone for wasting your time.
Could anyone explain how a forensic psychologist can help before formal charges and court can help?
Thank you
Thank you
To really suss out the make up of the person whose involved in the legal process to ascertain the mental health issues that need addressing that lead to the offences. If this makes sense. There are no family children involved so no ss.
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We know what the person has done whatever the charges so this is to try to understand from the legal side the perceived risk as well as from the personal side to then look at the best treatment.
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Hey ..
My oh wrote me a letter wk after the knock 5 months ago
He told me he had been abused aged 4 at a church playgroup (60's) .
Then by a family member aged 9
I've since been told by him who the family member was /is and I'm total shock..
He says he has no empathy and the reasons fur doing what he has is why should he be the only one to suffer !
Im shocked he has done this before and had a custodial sentence which I never knew ..
He says he's broken yet the family member who has broken him by abusing him is his sister and they are very close.. as was I with her before I knew
I was raped aged 12 he knew all my issues had been there fur me
Yet he couldn't tell me his issues
5 months ago when it all kicked off he said I can't do this without you.. but I've been here 16 years why didn't you ask fir help before now ?
We are separated still in same house its awful I want to be there to help he's just saying nothing life is just bumbling along ..
Not heard anything else since he was in court week after the knock we are in Scotland.
I want him out as I don't want this at my door when it all goes to court etc ..
He was caught with idc I don't know what or how much ..
Don't want to know..
Struggle every.single day one day he's my everything blink of an eye its gone
My oh wrote me a letter wk after the knock 5 months ago
He told me he had been abused aged 4 at a church playgroup (60's) .
Then by a family member aged 9
I've since been told by him who the family member was /is and I'm total shock..
He says he has no empathy and the reasons fur doing what he has is why should he be the only one to suffer !
Im shocked he has done this before and had a custodial sentence which I never knew ..
He says he's broken yet the family member who has broken him by abusing him is his sister and they are very close.. as was I with her before I knew
I was raped aged 12 he knew all my issues had been there fur me
Yet he couldn't tell me his issues
5 months ago when it all kicked off he said I can't do this without you.. but I've been here 16 years why didn't you ask fir help before now ?
We are separated still in same house its awful I want to be there to help he's just saying nothing life is just bumbling along ..
Not heard anything else since he was in court week after the knock we are in Scotland.
I want him out as I don't want this at my door when it all goes to court etc ..
He was caught with idc I don't know what or how much ..
Don't want to know..
Struggle every.single day one day he's my everything blink of an eye its gone