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Bless

Member since
April 2021

15 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 4:03pmReport post

Hi,



can I ask if anyone has had experience of their husband / child coming back to the home after being live streamed and then proven they done nothing wrong.




thank you

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2483 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 4:37pmReport post

Please excuse my ignorance - it comes with age - what is live stream?

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2483 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 4:49pmReport post

Oh yea - know what you mean now......how I hate fb.....

Edited Mon October 11, 2021 4:49pm

Hopeforthefuture

Member since
September 2021

97 posts

Posted Mon October 11, 2021 8:02pmReport post

Lee that's horrendous. I know the stories posted on social media about us after the court were incredibly false and in my opinion should have been followed up by the police for inciting hate. Sadly the police want nothing to do with online abuse, we'll until your actually physically assaulted!!! Then they may step in. These online vigilante groups should be held accountable for their lies and mis truths x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2483 posts

Posted Tue October 12, 2021 4:41amReport post

I wish I'd have not looked at various comments made - I was furious how dare they call my son an evil monster, hang him - shoot him...... they know nothing about what happened our family etc.

One thing has resignated with me in this journey - I will never judge people, in a way it's made me a better more understanding person.

Edited Tue October 12, 2021 4:43am

Bless

Member since
April 2021

15 posts

Posted Wed October 13, 2021 7:18amReport post

Lee - they have not, we are still waiting for the police to officially close the case, the OIC is recommending no further action, all his devices came back clean and there was nothing in the chat logs. Yes he was in adult chat rooms but that is for us to deal with and work through.

we are just so torn on him coming home and us riding it out or completely relocating

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2483 posts

Posted Wed October 13, 2021 9:29amReport post

I remember when my boy was on remand - the police told him if he felt threatened in any way to phone them immediately. They said they had a safeguarding duty towards him...

LizzeLou

Member since
January 2021

58 posts

Posted Wed October 13, 2021 9:48amReport post

I'm struggling with this issue. My husband is adamant he has done nothing wrong, so assuming he gets the proof to back this up, he will want to come home. He has now been away nearly 11 months and my emotions have been all over the place. I have to say that I had doubts occasionally and wonder if we can come back from this. I feel like our relationship is dead but feel so guilty for letting him down. It's tough and I dont think the relationship can ever be the same again, but if you love him then maybe you can start afresh with a new normal, dont try to regain the past relationship but embrace a new one. Good news he has been cleared and good luck for the future. X

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

874 posts

Posted Wed October 13, 2021 10:33amReport post

Hey LizzieLou,

I think it's normal to doubt your partner in these circumstances because we're conditioned to believe that the police are always right and how could they get things wrong. It's so hard to trust what your partner says, the police told me my partner would come back and groom me into believing him but he hasn't done anything wrong. They spoke about him as though he was a prolific predator. I suppose every single person in this position can only wait until there is evidence to see with your own eyes. It's hard, it's frustrating and it ruins lives. I've seen women still doubt their partners even after they've been cleared. I think it just takes time.

xx