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Hi I've just been notified that my ex partner/my kids dad has been arrested now bailed on suspension of grooming at least 12 young children and he got caught because he turned up to meet a 14 year old from a train station but luckily it was a decoy that turned up and rang the police.
We have 2 kids together an 11 year old and 9 year old I don't know what to expect from SS or what will happen to him, the police seem to have a lot of evidence against him and I never want him to see my kids again because it will be too much for them as they suffer with mental health as it already is
I really don't know how I should be feeling right now ????
We have 2 kids together an 11 year old and 9 year old I don't know what to expect from SS or what will happen to him, the police seem to have a lot of evidence against him and I never want him to see my kids again because it will be too much for them as they suffer with mental health as it already is
I really don't know how I should be feeling right now ????
Hi,
Sorry that you find yourself in this position. Social services should come out within 7 days. Only you know your children and what they can cope with mentally. His bail conditions will most likely include restrictions on contact with any children so initially the decision may be out of your hands. Make notes during your meetings with social services and request emails detailing your discussions with them to check the accuracy of them. These offences are not as black and white as society believes and for most people supervised contact can work. I would advise you to ask ss to discuss all of your options with you to allow you to make an informed decision further down the line once the anger subsides. I'll check the forum daily and there are lots of supportive people on here so if you have any specific questions as things progress please post them xx
Sorry that you find yourself in this position. Social services should come out within 7 days. Only you know your children and what they can cope with mentally. His bail conditions will most likely include restrictions on contact with any children so initially the decision may be out of your hands. Make notes during your meetings with social services and request emails detailing your discussions with them to check the accuracy of them. These offences are not as black and white as society believes and for most people supervised contact can work. I would advise you to ask ss to discuss all of your options with you to allow you to make an informed decision further down the line once the anger subsides. I'll check the forum daily and there are lots of supportive people on here so if you have any specific questions as things progress please post them xx
SS just phoned me as My ex of 9 years lives with somebody else. He was bailed same day. Ss just asked about my home how often did I see the ex etc, what I knew about what had gone on, what contact did my children have with thier dad and what plans I'd put into place to help them through this. Outcome never bothered again, they said they would check up on my youngest school, they advised me along with the police who had a right to be told ie school on a need to know basis!! And how supervised contact would work and how I would have to sort it! I told them unless SS was sorting it then he would have to which hasn't happened as I don't think his family know as he's be to ashamed to ask them to supervise his children's visits as they would be asking why . Apparently the only way for him to ride above me would to take me to court and apparently with his arrest in the words of SS 'no court in this land would be in his favour!'
I hope you get it sorted soon xx
I hope you get it sorted soon xx