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SallyBlue

Member since
March 2019

252 posts

Posted Sun March 10, 2019 12:44amReport post

Hey guys,

After a read of pretty much everyones posts I think I may be one of the few who has been going through this for several years. Hopefully someone may have a bit of insight or just an opinion.

So now social work has signed us off and we are soon to be moving out of the county we are looking into a name change. My husband has a very unusual name, googling him brings up several pages or search results about him. He will have have to change his name there is no doubt about it but I am wondering about me and our children. Do we all change our surnames? Does he just change his first name? Does anyone have experience in this at all?

Jaded

Member since
December 2018

202 posts

Posted Sun March 10, 2019 6:11amReport post

Hi Sallyblue,

its been some 5 1/2 years post knock for me. I’ve had mixed feelings about a change of name. We haven’t moved away so we think we’d attract more attention by changing names I think. Everyone who knows us are aware of a one sided version of the story thanks to a particular evil person spreading it n Facebook. So you come to the conclusion that Pandora’s box is well and truly open.

Im currently looking for jobs though and it’s a struggle, I’m very paranoid that jobs I have the skills and experience to do have all turned me down. It may be related it may not.

So even though the ‘crime’ isn’t mine if you google my name links to my husband immediately come up.

If you are moving away though it might be good for you all to have a completely fresh start and change the family name. Could you all revert to your maiden name?

Jaded

Member since
December 2018

202 posts

Posted Sun March 10, 2019 6:13amReport post

PS I think it’s much harder to change your first name than your second name. It’s instinctive to respond to the sound of your first name, a second name change would be preferable I think.

SallyBlue

Member since
March 2019

252 posts

Posted Sun March 10, 2019 12:40pmReport post

Thank you for your reply Jaded. I rid think of going by my maiden name, that we all switched to it but I have a very unique foreign maiden name. Other than my family I have never met anyone else with it. I fear it would draw even more attention.

I was turned down for a job because of someone online. It was ridiculous. I was offered the job and told to phone them with my availability. They kept hanging up on me, my neighbours were very pleased with themselves.