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It's been 5 months and had only one call. Still on RUI.

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Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 4:31pmReport post

Hiya.

So. This Monday coming it's been 5 months since hubby had the knock. Been on bail. Now on RUI.

He's told me everything and I mean everything.

So 5 months in we have had only one phone call from the police saying will be done soon.

Rung solicitor and said nothing to report.

How much does anybody have to wait.

Big ((hugs)) xx

Feelsick

Member since
September 2021

60 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 4:38pmReport post

I really feel for you!!

We are only 3 months in and it's driving me mental!! We did get told it will take around 6 months tho.

Although my situation is different to yours, my partner is claiming he is completely innocent.. so as it stands our future is in limbo as if any charges are brought I will leave. The lies will be too much.

Hope you aren't waiting much longer xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 4:44pmReport post

Hiya.

Our police office in charge said to him that it's hopes that within one year it would be concluded.

But I am thinking he is bottom of the pile due to him being low risk.

Xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 7:40pmReport post

Hiya Lee.

Once again thank you for your ongoing support and advice means so much.

At the moment house is sold and going through solicitors but all I can think about is hubby's case.

I should be looking forward to Xmas but can't. Cannot get this out of my head.

I know with timeframe the case won't go to court until new year. But who knows.

Sorry. Xx

Bless

Member since
April 2021

15 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 8:16pmReport post

My husband has received notification today from the OIC , that the refuse to charge has been authorised and will have official letter soon. This has taken 6 months and 11 days, but at least we can move forward .

As it was a live stream we now have to decide if he comes back home and we front it out (small rough village ge ) or completely start new where he is living and working now but that means me giving up my job and moving from family.

we are south east if that helps.



hopefully you will hear soon x

Edited Thu October 21, 2021 8:18pm

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 8:42pmReport post

Excellent news Bless.

Wow that was a quick result.

South here.

Xx

Bless

Member since
April 2021

15 posts

Posted Thu October 21, 2021 8:56pmReport post

Thank you Lee, you have been such an inspiration and so helpful with your advice with everyone. actually everyone gives such amazing support when we find ourselves stumbling into this world.

2 bits of advice that have stuck with me,

1.remember your wedding vows

2. Don't end your relationship, just put it on hold for now.



something we have done over the last 6 months because he has been living away is to make 1 night of the week a night that we both cook the same dinner at the same time and FaceTime while eating. It gives us something to keep us connected. Some days we have watched the same film at the same time. For me also having these planned events aided in the routine I needed to function to get through each day. X