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Hi all,
We’re still very early in the process (2 weeks post knock) but I’ve found posts on here useful in preparing for what to expect down the line with court, sentencing, etc. I wanna give you all a big hug as I see how much you are going through!
I know all cases are different, and by extension the lack of control over judge, their morals and mood is horrible to think about. Although the crimes in this area are just awful (especially with the chance of there being real victims on the other end) and I believe punishment is justified and necessary, I worry it could ruin entire lives which I don’t think should be the point of it.
My partner is genuinely remorseful and really is trying to get better from this (I think) porn addiction which lead to poor choices (common story I know). I was wondering if anyone has any practical advice on what my partner can be doing now and down the line to potentially help the case? The advice I have found useful so far:
Getting a paid solicitor/barrister and the right solicitor (can anyone give any experience on what the solicitor should practically be doing to help the case and how many hours you roughly need them?)
Writing character references - as many as possible from family and friends. From employer also where possible, which my partner should be able to get. Writing about their character outside of this and showing they will have a support network.
Paid ongoing therapy - my partner is trying to organise this now for healing and getting better anyway, I believe they can write a report for the case when necessary, I hope this would be useful? We are just trying to find something my partner is able to afford as it’s ongoing and we need to also be saving for worst case scenario too…
I might be thinking too far ahead but if there is anything else that would help right now or things that can be prepared in the future then my partner should be doing it. Hopefully this can be useful info for others too.
Thank you all,
Hope xx
Hi all,
We’re still very early in the process (2 weeks post knock) but I’ve found posts on here useful in preparing for what to expect down the line with court, sentencing, etc. I wanna give you all a big hug as I see how much you are going through!
I know all cases are different, and by extension the lack of control over judge, their morals and mood is horrible to think about. Although the crimes in this area are just awful (especially with the chance of there being real victims on the other end) and I believe punishment is justified and necessary, I worry it could ruin entire lives which I don’t think should be the point of it.
My partner is genuinely remorseful and really is trying to get better from this (I think) porn addiction which lead to poor choices (common story I know). I was wondering if anyone has any practical advice on what my partner can be doing now and down the line to potentially help the case? The advice I have found useful so far:
Getting a paid solicitor/barrister and the right solicitor (can anyone give any experience on what the solicitor should practically be doing to help the case and how many hours you roughly need them?)
Writing character references - as many as possible from family and friends. From employer also where possible, which my partner should be able to get. Writing about their character outside of this and showing they will have a support network.
Paid ongoing therapy - my partner is trying to organise this now for healing and getting better anyway, I believe they can write a report for the case when necessary, I hope this would be useful? We are just trying to find something my partner is able to afford as it’s ongoing and we need to also be saving for worst case scenario too…
I might be thinking too far ahead but if there is anything else that would help right now or things that can be prepared in the future then my partner should be doing it. Hopefully this can be useful info for others too.
Thank you all,
Hope xx
Hi Lee,
Thanks for the advice, that makes sense. I can't believe how expensive solicitors are, so we are definitely making sure they are in it for the right reasons if we are going to use them.
I completely agree with what you are saying and that's the most important thing in all of this - getting better. There will be risk assessments and regular checks in place going forward if there is to be any chance for us. I'm just here on the sidelines wondering if there's anything else to do - I'm a planner and it's really kicking in throughout all of this!
love Hope x
Thanks for the advice, that makes sense. I can't believe how expensive solicitors are, so we are definitely making sure they are in it for the right reasons if we are going to use them.
I completely agree with what you are saying and that's the most important thing in all of this - getting better. There will be risk assessments and regular checks in place going forward if there is to be any chance for us. I'm just here on the sidelines wondering if there's anything else to do - I'm a planner and it's really kicking in throughout all of this!
love Hope x