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Hi smile through tears,

U can not blame urself for the bad choices ur son made, I'm sure u r a fantastic mum, good people make bad decisions and unfortunately that is wat has happened it's no reflection on u at all xx stay strong lovely sending love and hugs to u xxxx

Smile I have the same thoughts all the time I had no idea and now I question myself how did I not notice i knew he was struggling for the last few years with is mental health and tried to help my son it's just heartbreaking x

yes, I do. We only had the knock this week & my head feels mashed up. Guilt that I could of done something to cause this happening to my lovely family. So many emotions & struggling to make sense of it all. Stay strong Xx

I just wanted to reach out and say I am also a mum going through this and I have those thoughts every single day, so you're definitely not alone!!
Big hugs to all the mums going through this it is heartbreaking!!

Hi lovely ladies, I too have these thoughts and, most of the time, I try not to feel guilty - however at my lowest moments I question where I went wrong. We are a close loving family and I can't see anything that has led my son to this, but here we are totally broken.

I'm interested to know whether other mums feel angry? I am devastated, but am so angry with my son for what he's done - I've spent all these years trying to be a good mum and my kids have always been at the centre of my world and have been my priority. Now I feel cheated and angry and betrayed and am not sure that I can get over it and have any sort of relationship with my son, or whether I even want to. He's RUI so I have no idea what the future holds but right now I just want to walk away.

Hugs to all xx

You're certainly not alone there Lola.

Anger, guilt and sadness endlessly cycling round my brain.

Hugs back xx