2nd interview next week
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Hi guys first post on here but been reading other people's post for a few weeks. My 18 year old son got the knock in July 2021 phones etc taken and interviewed and released under investigation since then he has been ringing stop it now twice a week for help and support and has now had the confidence to give his details to complete the course inform young plus
he is now also on antidepressants after visiting the doctor with his anxiety he is also having trouble finding a councillor to assist him with this issue which he is deeply ashamed of and he knows he has been sucked into this vicious ring without really realising it if that makes sense he's a hard working young man and we as parents just can't seem to get our heads around how and why this has happened also he has admitted to us and the police that he is addicted to porn so we have just been trying since July to get on as normal as possible and today my son received the phone call for the 2nd interview but we also can't understand how police have got his new phone number which is in my name anyway so his second interview is next week he has rang his solicitor who will be there with him it's just so frustrating how me as his dad can't be in there to hold his hand and be with him any advice and information about what to expect from the 2nd interview would be greatly appreciated
he is now also on antidepressants after visiting the doctor with his anxiety he is also having trouble finding a councillor to assist him with this issue which he is deeply ashamed of and he knows he has been sucked into this vicious ring without really realising it if that makes sense he's a hard working young man and we as parents just can't seem to get our heads around how and why this has happened also he has admitted to us and the police that he is addicted to porn so we have just been trying since July to get on as normal as possible and today my son received the phone call for the 2nd interview but we also can't understand how police have got his new phone number which is in my name anyway so his second interview is next week he has rang his solicitor who will be there with him it's just so frustrating how me as his dad can't be in there to hold his hand and be with him any advice and information about what to expect from the 2nd interview would be greatly appreciated
Hiya Dexter.
Sorry to hear this, that's not good I would have thought somebody would have been with him.
That's a quick turnaround from July/21 ?
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Sorry to hear this, that's not good I would have thought somebody would have been with him.
That's a quick turnaround from July/21 ?
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Hi Chelsea unfortunately turned 18 in May so the day of the knock felt helpless as was not allowed to go with him
Hiya Lee.
What happens after the second interview then ?
And kind of timeframe ?
What happens after the second interview then ?
And kind of timeframe ?
Hello Dexter
After reading your post I felt the need to reply. I am so sorry that you find yourself in this situation. Naturally as a parent to your 18 year old son you would want to be able to support him at his 2nd interview next week, but unfortunately you are unable to as he is now 18 years old. The only way you could support him if he is deemed vulnerable and then you could attend as an appropriate adult.
What happened at his first interview? Was it just him and a solicitor?
The young member of our family knew he would struggle with an Interview so he prepared a written statement (with his solicitor) at interview stage and on his solicitor's advice answered no comment to all the questions asked at Interview Stage. Your son's solicitor will advise your son on the best course of action for him to take with questioning.
If I think of anything else that could help in anyway I will post again.
I hope next week goes well for your son.
After reading your post I felt the need to reply. I am so sorry that you find yourself in this situation. Naturally as a parent to your 18 year old son you would want to be able to support him at his 2nd interview next week, but unfortunately you are unable to as he is now 18 years old. The only way you could support him if he is deemed vulnerable and then you could attend as an appropriate adult.
What happened at his first interview? Was it just him and a solicitor?
The young member of our family knew he would struggle with an Interview so he prepared a written statement (with his solicitor) at interview stage and on his solicitor's advice answered no comment to all the questions asked at Interview Stage. Your son's solicitor will advise your son on the best course of action for him to take with questioning.
If I think of anything else that could help in anyway I will post again.
I hope next week goes well for your son.
Hi Alison
yes first interview was just my son and solicitor I wasn't aloud to attend we have spoken to solicitor again today about what's going to happen next week and explained our feelings to him and he's was very good with explaining what's going to happen next week but at the end of the day we just want to be there for him rightly or wrongly he's going through a tough time at the moment especially with such a quick turnaround we weren't expecting to hear anything till next year we have supported him all the way but to me being just 18 is not an Adult they are very nieve at that age I think with no life experience and I'm sure other people will feel the same the only thing I can do is drop him off and be there for when he gets out of the interview it will probably be one of the longest waits of my life
yes first interview was just my son and solicitor I wasn't aloud to attend we have spoken to solicitor again today about what's going to happen next week and explained our feelings to him and he's was very good with explaining what's going to happen next week but at the end of the day we just want to be there for him rightly or wrongly he's going through a tough time at the moment especially with such a quick turnaround we weren't expecting to hear anything till next year we have supported him all the way but to me being just 18 is not an Adult they are very nieve at that age I think with no life experience and I'm sure other people will feel the same the only thing I can do is drop him off and be there for when he gets out of the interview it will probably be one of the longest waits of my life
Hi Dexter
I completely understand how you feel , with wanting to be there for your son. I completely agree it seems so wrong when he has only turned 18 that he is treated as an Adult. You will have to put your trust in his solicitor and if it was just the two of them for the first interview, then your son will get through the second one with the solicitor too.
For memory I am pretty sure your son can obtain a recording of the interview from the police if he so wishes, this is just a thought in case he wants to share with you what went on - you may want to check this with the solicitor.
I will be thinking of you and your son next week.
I completely understand how you feel , with wanting to be there for your son. I completely agree it seems so wrong when he has only turned 18 that he is treated as an Adult. You will have to put your trust in his solicitor and if it was just the two of them for the first interview, then your son will get through the second one with the solicitor too.
For memory I am pretty sure your son can obtain a recording of the interview from the police if he so wishes, this is just a thought in case he wants to share with you what went on - you may want to check this with the solicitor.
I will be thinking of you and your son next week.
Thank you Alison we can't believe how quick the turnaround has been we're not expecting anything off them until at least have Xmas
Hi Dexter
No two cases are the same- even the timescales!
We waited over 11 monthe for a voluntary interview and the member of our family was under 18 at the time. We found it to be torture for the young member of our family and us for the long wait. It was just over a year from the knock to him attending youth court.
It is good that your son is about to start the young person's Inform course with LFF. The young member of our family did this course and it was a godsend for him and us. Like your son it took a while before he was able to do it (about six months from the knock) and I would highly recommend it.
Just a thought if you want to talk to someone about your son's mental wellbeing at any time in the future. There is a charity called 'Young Minds' that provide advice to Parents/carers with concerns over their children's mental wellbeing up to the age of 25 years . We have used them and found them very helpful.
If I think of anything else I will post again.
Take care
No two cases are the same- even the timescales!
We waited over 11 monthe for a voluntary interview and the member of our family was under 18 at the time. We found it to be torture for the young member of our family and us for the long wait. It was just over a year from the knock to him attending youth court.
It is good that your son is about to start the young person's Inform course with LFF. The young member of our family did this course and it was a godsend for him and us. Like your son it took a while before he was able to do it (about six months from the knock) and I would highly recommend it.
Just a thought if you want to talk to someone about your son's mental wellbeing at any time in the future. There is a charity called 'Young Minds' that provide advice to Parents/carers with concerns over their children's mental wellbeing up to the age of 25 years . We have used them and found them very helpful.
If I think of anything else I will post again.
Take care
Thank you Alison for you lovely and helpful comments
Hello Dexter
Just to say I hope your son (and you) managed to cope with his second interview this week. I really hope it went as well as can be expected and your son has also managed to start/sort out the Young Person Inform Plus course.
Just to say I hope your son (and you) managed to cope with his second interview this week. I really hope it went as well as can be expected and your son has also managed to start/sort out the Young Person Inform Plus course.
It was ok they found a couple of videos so have now forwarded to cps so now waiting to see what happens he has also sorted his inform course out so that starts in January solicitor was also very helpful
I am glad the interview went ok for your son, I hope he does not have to wait too long for a decision from the CPS. I am pleased he starts his course in January, that will soon come around.