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It doesn't sound like you've done anything wrong at all.

If social services ask you, just be honest with them and explain the details.

You are entitled to speak to whoever you want, whenever you want and provided you are safeguarding your children (which you clearly are) it shouldn't be an issue!

Social services may me concerned about the possibility of him being involved with the children either now or in the future but as you have clearly set out boundaries with your ex, this should be enough for them.

Hope your child in need meeting goes well. X

Excuse my ignorance but what is CS?

I'm not sure what it would mean, so can't advise I'm afraid. It does make sense that they will want to keep in touch to make sur ethe children are safe but I don't think they will tell the children's father if he's not in contact with them, if that makes sense?

I can understadn why social services may have concerns if you're in a relationship but should only be with regards to the children's safety.

They'll be thinking along the lines of potential for him grooming you to get access to your children as they have to think about potential. You might kno it won't happen but they don't really know you or your family so have to check to make sure. Feels bad as you've done nothing wrong and some social workers can be awful from what I've seen and heard but I think it helps to try look at why they do it..

I'm pretty sure you're entitled to be in a relationship with whoever you want, and entitled to privacy from your ex if you're not exposing your children to them.. x

Thanks.

If I can ask what's the role of the OMU?

I started a new thread on this question / thanks feelsick x